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Ya know, there are thing we sometimes do by instinct without much forethought and then later find out it was the right thing to do. When I finally decided to date after going through the grieving process my first thought was how my decision would be accepted by my two adult kids along with my late wife’s parent and brother. BTW, my late wife and her family were first generation 1960’s Cuban refugees and I had been accepted into a very close knit family. I started with the kids. I sat them down, told them I was considering it and they replied that they wondered why I had not started dating earlier than this. My daughter actually suggested a couple of single women from our church I might consider. A few days later I took by brother-in-law to lunch and discussed the issue with him as well. My brother-in-law declared that he and his parents had already discussed the prospects that I would start dating. Because they were concerned about my happiness, they told my brother-in-law they would encourage it. He went on to say that during their conversation my father-in-law also mentioned that they were confident the person or persons I might bring to a family function would be nothing less than a sophisticated lady (emphasis on the word “lady”). I did not disappoint them and they were very gracious and accepting of anyone I introduced them to. One thing though, before introducing someone new to family members, I had to be sure they were more than a casual date and had become a relationship partner to me.
I’m not an expert but in my opinion I think the key is to assure family members that you will choose wisely, that family members will still be loved above all others and that you would want them to be willing to share your adventure into the process of finding a relationship partner.