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In Response to RE: Low chemistry relationships by qualityguy365
I agree about chemistry fading, because sometimes, what felt like chemistry to me, ended up being a rocket that crashed back to earth almost as quickly as it took off.
I don't agree about chemistry building however. My experience is that chemistry is either there at first, or it isn't. I've struggled in relationships in which I really liked a woman, but the juice factor just never developed. Maybe it's a shortcoming in me, but I don't know anyone else who has experienced real chemistry building either.
I don't feel there is any intangible as hard to nail down as chemistry. It's what makes the physical aspect of a relationship red hot, and the emotional part feel warm and sustaining enough to work through the inevitable tough times.
I think the trick is to learn to distinguish between authentic chemistry and just physical attraction. I've been down this path too often not to have learned something over the years. Like most of the people here, I decided a while ago to wait for the real deal instead of falling for someone just because I found her attractive, and hope for the best.
I waited a long time to meet Sarah, and our chemistry is at a level that's a first for both of us. I don't know how I could have missed the real deal all these years, but I did. Emotional chemistry is equally important to the physical. Being in a relationship in which the other person feels exactly as I do, is about pacing, and sharing the same emotional pacing makes maintaining the level of feeling in a relationship flow smoothly.
By the way, thanks for all the warm wishes about my finding love. I'll keep everyone posted.