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I have mentioned this in other threads. My mother was very adamant about me being a true gentleman and being cognisant of the proper way to behave around a lady. When I was eight I was holding doors for my mom and helping her on with her coat. It got easier as I grew taller. Even as a child when we were out at a restaurant I would always stand up if my mother left the table. I was very receptive to the way she showed me things always explaining as to why they customs. She told me that a man should always walk on the outside when walking with a woman. She explained that this custom came about in the Middle Ages. According to her during those time people just threw there trash and garbage out the window. Trash thrown from a second story ( or higher) window would fall at an angle and land on the outside of the walkway underneath: hence a man was supposed to walk on the outside to protect a woman from any free falling trash. Anytime I did something that was inappropriate or could be considered rude my mother would always say, "Thank you Lord Chesterfield!", and laugh. Lord Chesterfield, according to my mother was the epitome of social grace. She said he was known for a letter he wrote to his son while he ( his son) was in boarding school. The letter is considered to be the consummate handbook on how to be a gentleman. I liked everything she showed me and when I began dating I was miles ahead of many other boys because of what my mother had ingrained in me. Also by that time it was just a natural part of my behavior that I never had to think about. Another residual of this that was more covert was that anytime as a manger or some type of leader I required someone to do something l always explained why it was necessary. Never did I say" "Because I said so!" This type of approach always served me well.