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In Response to RE: The Flasher by PattyDiane
Years ago when you were sexually harassed on the job you either put up with it or quit - you didn't have many options since men really ruled most work places. Sometimes women supervisors were just as bad because they ignored the problem as well. I wanted very much to be a legal secretary and was delighted to be hired by a small law firm (father and son). I didn't realize at the time that Mr. X was willing to hire me because he could get me at lower pay since I had no legal experience. The one and only good thing about the job was that I did learn a great deal in more ways than one.
I had no actual problems with Mr. X - he was professional and we worked well together. His son, Mr. Y, was another story. At first everything seemed fine. Mr. Y got married (he was fresh out of law school so not much older than me). Then one day, even though he knew that I was also married, he invited me to go for a drink and dinner after work.
On this particular day his father had left early so we were alone. He put his hand on my shoulder and stood extremely close to me as I sat at my desk. I was stunned and I said that I was happily married and didn't go out with other men - I avoided reminding him of his own marital status. He told me I shouldn't be such a prude; his wife was out of town and no one would know. Obviously he wanted more than dinner. I told him absolutely not. Then he said, "You'll be sorry."
This happened about the middle of the week. On Friday afternoon Mr. X called me into his office. I had noticed a change in his attitude toward me and so I was somewhat prepared for what happened. He said that he was extremely pleased with my work and regretted that he was also extremely disappointed in me personally. He said he could not tolerate a married woman propositioning ANY married man, least of all his son and in his law office. I guess I knew that I wouldn't be believed, but I told him exactly what had happened. He then said he was willing to give me another chance.
I admit later that I was rather proud of myself. I stood up and told him that I was not comfortable working with his son since he had blatantly lied about me nor was I pleased with the fact that he believed the lie. I said those liberating words "I quit". He said if you leave, don't ask for a reference. I said don't worry, I won't. He gave me a check for the week plus two weeks (which surprised me - maybe he did believe me, but after all, it was his son or me). I don't think he did that young man any favors as a parent. Somehow I managed to get home from downtown Manhattan to the Bronx before I broke down and cried.
I told my husband what had happened and of course he wanted to go punch the guy (son) but I calmed him down. I had worked there 6 months and had quite a bit of legal experience that I couldn't reference. I didn't work for another law office for three years - after we moved upstate.