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In Response to RE: Christmas Nostalgia... by intersan
I have no children of my own but after the death of my sister three years ago my nieces began to ask me questions about our childhood. I realized my sister had shared very little with her daughters.
When I was a child I often asked my mother, grandmother and great-grandmother to tell me about when they were a child. The answer was always the same. They told me they were never a child.
During the latter years of my mother's life she shared some information with me during our conversations but I'm sad to say that my mother was famous for her tendency to change from one topic to another very quickly which sometimes made it very difficult to follow her stories and their connections. That made me think of actually writing out what I knew and sharing the information with my family, sending them several for Christmas and other special occasions.
Up until this year I tried to make most of the stories pleasant. Last year I wrote two "stories" with information that was less than pleasant, about some of the hard times. I didn't send them last year but decided to do it this year. Some of this information had been family secrets and I can see how things not talked about have a huge effect on the family. For example, my mother did not know about the circumstances around the death of her father until she was in her 60's. This "secret" greatly affected her and of course her mother, who kept the secret. Of course, they affected us.
I don't know what my family thinks of this information but as I get older I don't feel good about holding this information. It seems to me what we don't know can hurt us and I don't want it passed to another generation if I can help it.
I hope I balanced out the bad stuff by sending some of the short stories I wrote that were based on actual experiences.