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A lot of the problems with gay men and women stem from ignorance. Today it is difficult to BE ignorant because of media and other attention and the fact that many more gays are not afraid to "come out". However, when I was friends with the young man "Joe" at my job years ago in the 70s, I had an interesting experience.
I don't know what brought the subject up, but I was visiting my Aunt in New Jersey, and her daughter, my cousin, was also there. We were having a female gab session - don't know where my Uncle and husband were. I have no doubt if they were present we wouldn't have had the discussion at all. I also don't know why the subject of "gays" came up - not even sure that was the term used at the time.
They were stunned, to say the least, that I had a gay friend at work. The questions were rather hilarious. I've always thought it could have been a bit on Saturday Night Live. But they were very serious. They didn't have a clue - partly because they were raised and still lived in a rural neighborhood dominated by white Protestants. If there were any gays, they kept it hidden. Because of the Bible's use of the word "abomination" - that is how they conceived the lifestyle. I like to think that I changed their view somewhat because Joe wasn't the only gay I knew - as I mentioned, I had two brother-in-laws and others, including my long-time hair dresser.
The most difficult question of course was "how do they do IT?" (and that is how my aunt worded it - I kid you not). Fortunately, discussing sex in general has never been a problem for me, but the expressions on their faces were rather astounded. I did point out that even heterosexuals do IT that way and in many countries it's a means of birth control. Anyway, it was a discussion that helped me to understand why many people had a problem with gays.
As to the "abomination" - isn't that - like every other lifestyle or action - a matter between us and God if we believe in Him? It really isn't for other people to judge. I know that my Methodist church has a motto - Open Hearts - Open Doors - Open Minds. EVERYONE is welcome and there is no negative preaching (and I've been there through 3 pastors). I think that it is why I feel so at home in that church. It isn't that the church condones, but it accepts us all.