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In Response to RE: Memoir Prompt May 2012 : Family Traditions by Bryteyz
Robin, I was deeply touched by your post. I am so glad that you went against you initial feeling and posted anyway. After reading a lot of posts in this forum about family and the warmth that it brings I posted this prompt because I wanted to hear about what traditions people had in their formative years. In my family there were no happy traditions. I feel I should have gone one better and said "If you didn't have any did you start any when you were able to make the choices?" My sister and I came out of the same household and went in two different directions. She married once, didn't drink , had two beautiful daughters, worked fulltime ,devoted herself to her family and created many traditions. My life was one of many relationships in which I morphed into their traditions because i had none of my own. When I was growing up eating at the dinner table was when my sister and I would get clobbered with our "shortcomings". In all my adult life I have never owned a dining room table. My sister had a big dining table and as a mother made family meals a joyful focal point of the day. When I would visit, special recipes were brought out and we would have a great time talking and laughing as we ate. I am very grateful for her and what she has done for her family. We are two opposites. To me she took the high road and created some things that I am sure her daughters will write about when they start writing and thinking about their memoirs.
From communicating with you in this forum ,I feel there are things that you have graced your family with that you could write about. I am truly sorry about your childhood and can empathize with what you went through. One thing about you that stands out for me is your post about having a Daycare Center. You had the wherewithal to have one of each age and showed them many things as well as bringing joy to their lives. Making grocery shopping fun to a bunch of kids takes real talent.
You and so many others on this forum have been so inspiring; not because of what happened to you but because of how you dealt with it and let it form your adult life with strength and compassion. I hope that upon refection you and others will share with us the warmth that was created because of what was missing in childhood.