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First you need to have a lawyer who understands your priorities and will stand up for you. I don't know what state you live in, and the differences from state to state are enormous. But, if you are told something by your lawyer that doesn't make sense to you, get an opinion from a different lawyer. Be sure you understand what is happening and why. It's your life, not the lawyers. Don't be embarrassed to ask for an explanation. If the lawyer doesn't want to take the time to explain why something is being done or suggested, that may not be the right lawyer for you. You live with the outcome; she doesn't. This will be a life-changing process, not an event that happens to you. Be part of it. Offer to help the lawyer by doing things you are able to do; it will save fees. And be careful what you say to your friends and family; don't repeat what your lawyer says or you will lose the confidentiality of your communications with your lawyer (called attorney-client privilege). And tell the truth. It may require giving details so it's understood, but it's better than leaving the lawyer thinking that something is safe to go into in court when it is not. This may not be the kind of help or advise you were asking for, but I hope you find it helpful.
In Response to RE: Late-Life Divorce Financial Information:
So happy I found this group. I recently left my spouse after 22 years. We are not yet divorced but have been living apart for a year. Any suggestions on what you all have done in getting through the divorce process. I'm ready to move forward this year and get everything finished.
Have an awesome day.
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