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been unhappily married for many years, and I had stayed because I thought it was best for our child (he’s now 14). Since the divorce, I have been happier than I had been for many years and feel like I’ve got a whole new life and I wished the same for him. However, my ex-husband is angry and bitter and refuses to let go of the idea that we might somehow get back together. I’ve never given him any indication that this could be possible. He also seeks to blame other people for the divorce. I’m currently dating someone and my ex-husband’s latest “fit throwing” episode involves accusing me of seeing this man while we were married (this was certainly not the case and he has no basis whatsoever for these accusations). My theory is that he would rather believe that I left him for someone else than to admit that it didn’t work because of things he did wrong. I’ve seen this happen with him many times over the years; someone else became the “target of his anger” just because he wanted to take things out on someone who didn’t have anything to do with whatever he was upset about. This person was usually me; that’s one of the many reasons I was so unhappy. I know
that it’s never one person to blame in a divorce and I’ve admitted that I made many mistakes also. I just want to get on with my life now and truly wish he could do the same. Not only is he not doing this, he’s trying to prevent me from moving on with mine. He constantly finds reasons to call or text me, sometimes in the middle of the night and gets really angry when I don’t respond. He checks to see what I’m doing by driving by
my apartment to see whose car is there or coming by my place of employment to see if I’m there. He somehow knows when I'm out on a date and calls and texts me during the date. I have to communicate
with him when it concerns our child; because of this, I’m unable to break off all communications with him. He’s a very controlling person and tries to play mind games. I don’t have a clue how to handle this, but I feel bullied.