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Has anyone managed to maintain a decent platonic friendship with his or her ex? My ex divorced me in 1993, in the 25th year of our marriage, after having an affair with a much younger woman, who subsequently married his best friend. None of his other relationships have worked out for him. I have dated, but never found anyone else.
My ex and I stayed friends, because we could help each other with certain problems, like car repairs and through health problems.
Recently, it seems as though he has finally succeeded in getting rid of me, even as a friend, because of a very ugly fight on the phone. He can be very sadistic and managed to dredge up old issues, and to insult me as badly as he could. What triggered his attack? I had phoned to see if he was okay, because he was having dangerous (to his health) issues with his latest ex-girlfriend. It's something of a medical mystery why he is still alive, after getting congestive heart failure, in addition to diabetes, cataracts, etc., etc., in 2008. I actually helped him through his health crises, driving and writing letters and forms for him, when he couldn't see, before his eye operation. He said I saved his life. I guess my empathy and pity for him, outweighed the old anger.
At first, I was upset by the sudden end of the communications, and friendship, then it dawned on me that I was feeling much better, and lighter, not burdened with his never-ending problems and emotional upheavals. I thought, if I only have to deal with my own problems, then it isn't so bad.
The wife of one of my cousins wrote that my relationship with my ex was "toxic." I am starting to see that now.