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I am semi-retired, which means I am on social security but still work part time.
The combination of reduced income, adjusting to a new lifestyle, a very stressful job ( RN in the Emergency Room ), a 19 y/o, plus a 17 y/o grandson who stays with me part time, can do really unhealthy things to my temper and blood pressure.
After my 19 y/o asked me "are you losing your mind?", I realized that as well as being the trigger for many of them , he was also bearing the brunt of my frustration over things he had no control over. Yes, he is the spoiled baby of the family, ( wonder who made him that way?), but he is also basically a good kid that does the majority of what I ask him to do.
I like to fish and camp and we have been doing it since my older children were very small. Lately I have gotten away from it except for our rare vacations or long weekends.
I have started keeping a telescoping rod/reel and a small tackle box in the trunk of my car. Now when I see red at something he has said or done, I am trying to jump in my car and go to the creek or one of the ponds near my house and sit on the bank and fish for a while.
It does wonders for our relationship and gives me time to calm down and figure out if this is really a battle worth fighting about or is this just the last straw in my stressful day. You would be surprised at how many times I figure out it really has nothing to do with him or what he has said or done.
If it really is about him, I come back with my arguments down pat and able to talk about the problem rationally instead of it deteriating to a screaming battle.
I have also found it does wonders for my frame of mind when I have had a particularly horrific night, to stop at one of the many creeks I cross driving home and get out and sit on the bank and fish for 30 minutes or so. By the time I finish my 40 mile drive home, I am much more relaxed and ready to face any home problems or go to bed and get some sound sleep.