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In Response to Being Used by Working Mom's by RedHawkagain
These are reminders for all of us, no matter what the situation:
- "We teach people how we want them to treat us!"
- "People can't take advantage of us, unless we let them!"
If there's no "Quid pro quo" between working & stay-at-home mothers (a favor for a favor), then it's up to the stay-at-home moms to decide if they consider it "being used". If they do, then maybe it's time for them to speak up, perhaps making a suggestion of what they'd appreciate the working mom do for them.
In the case you mentioned, about working mom's depending on stay-at-home moms to participate in a school function, they have to accept that they're "losing their voice" in how the function is handled, they may cause the event to be cancelled if there isn't enough parent participation, and they're missing out on the experience itself.
I'm retired & not a Mom, but I recently had to contend with a situation where a friend began asking me more frequently, to take her along with me, if we were both going to the same meeting or event .. because she doesn't like driving, if she can avoid it. She never volunteered to reciprocate in any way, and I did begin to feel I was being taken advantage of, so I told her that .. as uncomfortable as it was.