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I got so infuriated with this article. First off, going into great detail for most of the article as to WHAT COPD is ,barely approached the actual answer to the Q," she still smokes, now what??"
Second; why in the world cottle a grown adult concerning such a filthy, self-distructive habit that is now destroying someone ELSES environment?
I would lay down some very specific ground rules; smoke outside, at least 25ft from the house. Period. If I even smell cigs in the house I'll personally find, and throw away all contraband. That's right.
If your mom was an alcholic and her liver was shot, you'd find the booze and pour it down the drain.
So AARP thank you very much for explaining what COPD is. I'm quite certain that your audience of readers, age 50+ know what it is either by having it, or knowing someone that does. Then turning the article around and making sure the caregiver feels like crap for any anger or resentment felt and/or displayed towards an ongoing ,self-destructive parent living in the caregivers home.
I too, had a parent hide cigs in the house. As we all watched the blood-soaked coughing continue, we'd smell cigs all day long; on his clothing, on his breath, in the car, etc.
He even went so far asto smoke in the hospital before x-rays!! And I'm supposed to talk to someone like that with respect and calmness? Give me a break! It disgusted and infuriated me to no end.
He died a horrible, untimely death....leaving my mom and I to fend for ourselves. Cigs and COPD do NOT mix and the person needs to know under NO certain terms will it be accepted while living THERE.
And good luck finding an Assisted Care home that'll let you smoke anywhere BUT outside away from the building! So go ahead and buy the patches, drops, pills and gum. Put them all in a bowl and tell her," here's your choice to stay here". And don't forget to tie it all up with a pretty bow and an, "I LOVE YOU"