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Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
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Fair warning...this is a lament. There are few places to have simple, relaxed conversations without rancor and recrimination on the AARP site. I believe it's possible to have
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at November 21, 2011 6:31 PM EST
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First: July 31, 2010 Last: May 23, 2013 |
Hi again, Everyone! I have tried to fade into the background a little in order to allow some new voices to express their thoughts. I think a lot of us are just looking for a place to hang out, meet friends, share what's on our minds and just be ourselves. I hope some of the newer visitors will jump right in with their thoughts and help kick the conversational ball around! Don't be shy! What's everyone doing for Thanksgiving? I was supposed to drive to Florida to meet with family for Thanksgiving at a beachside resort. Unfortunately, I broke a tooth this afternoon and instead of leaving in the morning for my destination, I will be sitting in the dentist's chair. I am pretty bummed out because it totally screws up my schedule and I doubt I can get there, driving by myself, before Thanksgiving dinner. I've just cancelled my participation...now I don't have any plans at all. I do have some single friends and will probably get together with them as all of my childeren live out of town. Life can be a reality check at times! I always seem to land on my feet...but if it's meant to be that I spend Thanksgiving alone, I will be okay with that prospect as well. I've been to a couple of movies in the last couple of weeks. J. Edgar was an interesting study of the man and his times. Judi Dench played his mother. I've always liked her characters. Leonardo DiCaprio was very good as Hoover. I saw Puss in Boots last Friday night. It's great that the animated films are played with enough funny dialogue and plot twists to satisfy the adult viewer as well as children. My companion and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I'll sign off for now. Hope you all have some input soon! ~ Mimi
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at November 22, 2011 9:19 AM EST
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First: October 21, 2011 Last: June 10, 2012 |
*Waving frantically* I'm back for a day or so I think! I didn't crawl under a rock or anything. Wow, several new voices, HI!! I got corralled into assisting with the high school musical at the dress rehersal point. Thank heavens it's over! Actually it was lots of fun- but high school kids are NOT my "companions" of choice...ya know? Next- Thanksgiving. Mimi, I swear I'd rather stay home alone! I'm really sorry about your tooth though, how upsetting. I'll be going to my oldest DD's house for the day. At least thats the plan as of this moment. She's an in-home caregiver so theres always the chance she might get a call. I think I'm going to try to get some sleep now. The massive wind storm that got me up seems to have turned into rain. It was bad enough that I came downstairs to make sure the oil lamps and flashlights would be available should the power go out. Lots of outages in the area but not us, YAY! I thought we were going to lose it when I saw a double flash and showers of sparks from across the road, all the streetlamps went out for a second then slowly powered back up. There was no boom so it wasen't a transformer. Probably just one of the lamps. Good morning and good night! |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at December 17, 2011 7:45 PM EST
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First: November 19, 2011 Last: December 17, 2011 |
In Response to Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?: No takers yet? Oh, gee! I was hoping to get some folks to come out of their shells, conquer any remaining shyness and regale us with stories of their single life experiences! scrborofaire Posted by scrborofaire I know exactly what you're talking about. Looking for someone to chat with is how I found your post. I am a single woman and downright lonely but can't seem to find friends to have coffee or just take a walk with me. I've tried meeting singles on line but I must be the only one not interested in romance. I am not a man-hater, but am at the point of needing friends , both men and women, and am not searching for that one special man. I've already found him several times and it wasn't all that great. I don't care if you live in Alaska or next dorr to me, let's just converse. |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at January 5, 2012 9:35 AM EST
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First: January 5, 2012 Last: January 5, 2012 |
In Response to Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?: No takers yet? Oh, gee! I was hoping to get some folks to come out of their shells, conquer any remaining shyness and regale us with stories of their single life experiences! scrborofaire Posted by scrborofaire Good for You !!!! I Totally agree with what you've said. . . where are the principles of the 30's, 40', and 50's . . . when people were polite, helped each other, weren't so self-centered? Times when you could trust a policeman or fireman or your teacher. What's happened in the world?? I still think there's a good number of good people who have these ideals and that they can 'get together' and chat civilly with one another, realizing that everyone has an opinion.... opinions are not always bad or wrong, they're just different than ours. I think you've done a great job in expressing a desire to just be good friends with the ability to be polite and kind and able to carry on a pleasant conversation. . . keep it light-hearted people! We need to treat others just like we'd like to be treated. Throw out a topic for today . . . how about old movies . . I mean Old movies . . . I love to watch Turner Classic Movies. Thanks for 'listening' and everyone enjoy their day :) |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at January 5, 2012 9:41 AM EST
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First: January 5, 2012 Last: January 5, 2012 |
Hey, I'm single, literate, and fair minded . . . I've even got my glass of wine :) What's on your mind today? In Response to Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?: Hellooooooo ~ Wow, I can almost hear an echo, it's so empty here! Where are all of the interesting, literate, friendly and fair minded people hanging out? Will someone at least give me coordinates for my GPS? (LOL!!!) I think I will pour myself a glass of wine, maybe have a little snack and wait for this rare breed of single friends to arrive! Cheers! scrborofaire aka Mimi1921 Waiting for the "perfect" man...lol!!! Posted by scrborofaire |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at January 7, 2012 11:45 PM EST
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First: May 8, 2011 Last: January 10, 2012 |
In Response to Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?: There are few places to have simple, relaxed conversations without rancor and recrimination on the AARP site. I believe it's possible to have entertaining and fun conversations with other singles, widows and divorced people and I'd like to find such a place here on AARP. I am a member of several "singles specific" discussion forums. I like to check in to see if there are any interesting conversations going on and in the past I've jumped in and offered my thoughts. That's it...just my thoughts, my unique opinions on the subject at hand, nothing more and nothing less. I like to read similar contributions from others...even if they disagree! Sounds like a great idea to me. I tried the forums here when I first signed up but the coversations never seemed to last. Checking back once in a blue moon and seeing that the last post was 6 months ago makes you lose interest fast. LOL But I'm game if enough people want to try and keep a convo going here. There are flamebaiters and trolls, certain folks who make "ad hominem" attacks on their fellow members and others who are just plain rude! Would they act this way if they were guests in someone's home? I hope not! What ever happened to good manners and respecting one's fellows? Has the notion of maintaining proper etiquette and engaging in civil conversations gone up in a puff of smoke? Actually I think this is pretty much a part of the modern web experience. Back in the ancient times when I had my first expereince with online through a dial up AOL connection, I actually did frequently meet some very nice people online in chatrooms and such. That changed unfortunately a long time ago. I think once computers got cheap enough so that just about anyone could get web access that is when you started to run into the kind of people you refer to. People who can hide behind a screen and be totally obnoxious just because they know they can. I don't really think there is a solution to that except doing your best to ignore them. I've particpate in a couple of forums elsewhere and it isn't any different as far as a moderator being around to keep order. By way of intro, I'm Larry. I'm 55, at least for another 5 months, divorced for about 12 years, and I retired in 2010. I'm not independently wealthy or anything but as a former low-level bureaucrat, I was able to retire a few years early on a modest pension which has proven adequate for my needs. I've been busy building a house for the last year and just recently completed the exterior. I enjoy writing and do some web content freelancing and have written a couple of e-books in my spare time. I guess I'm somewhat of a loner rather than lonely. It didn't really take me long to adjust to single life when I divorced. I do have family in the town I live in now, have grown children a couple of hours away, and a several close friends nearby so I guess that takes care of my needs for companionship. I haven't been in a relationship for about three years now but if I were honest I'd have to say I don't really miss that. I'm a normal guy and like women well enough. Actually I like women most times more than men as far conversation and such. I guess I just don't miss the complications of being in a relationship if you know what I mean. Well that's about it for now. I'll check in for time to time and give a comment or throw in my two cents worth if we keep this going. |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at February 25, 2012 7:56 AM EST
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First: February 25, 2012 Last: March 1, 2012 |
In Response to Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?: In Response to Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss? : I know exactly what you're talking about. Looking for someone to chat with is how I found your post. I am a single woman and downright lonely but can't seem to find friends to have coffee or just take a walk with me. I've tried meeting singles on line but I must be the only one not interested in romance. I am not a man-hater, but am at the point of needing friends , both men and women, and am not searching for that one special man. I've already found him several times and it wasn't all that great. I don't care if you live in Alaska or next dorr to me, let's just converse. Posted by mobo Mobo, your comments get two thumbs up from me. Not everyone is looking for romance ... but there are so many "couples" activities that are a little uncomfortable for two same-sex single friends to join in. (Dancing is a good example.) It would be wonderful to have some male friends who would also like to participate in these couple type things without actually being a couple. Are there any nice gay guys out there who would like to learn to dance but lack a female partner? I think you are doing exactly the right thing by honestly reaching out and I'd love to continue a conversation here. I firmly believe too many "seniors" are embarrassed to reach out but in their hearts are hoping that others will reach out to THEM. I hear it all the time in my volunteer activities with seniors. |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at March 17, 2012 10:08 AM EDT
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First: March 17, 2012 Last: March 17, 2012 |
Hi every one, good to be here I'M new to this site can't wait to make new friends and have good conversation with every one. I am 57 love to meet new people and have fun. |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at March 18, 2012 7:09 PM EDT
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First: March 18, 2012 Last: March 22, 2012 |
Good afternoon to all. I would like to join the conversation. I must be honest...I'm in grad school and I am studying to be an Occupational Therapist. One of the courses I am currently taking discusses issues facing the aging population and more specifically about relationships. It sounds like this thread might be a great thread for me to join and learn. I'll tell you more about myself so you won't think I'm a nut case: I am 45, mother of a 14 yr old, work with special needs children in a public school district in Texas, and I am in my LAST year of grad school. I have worked with special needs children for 20 years and I have also worked with the geriatric population specifically with dementia and Alzheimer's. In case you were wondering, I am an Occupational Therapist Assistant and I have kicked it up a notch to get my master's degree in OT. It sounds like the generation ahead of me is in the same boat that my generation is in...would really like to have simple adult conversation and forge meaningful relationships (friendships or otherwise) without games and drama. It appears that once you hit a certain age (45+) that dating is not all that it is cracked up to be and life isn't as simple as it was when you were 25. George Carlin had a funny take on aging: "Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get oldHe cracks me up! Cheers everyone...
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at March 22, 2012 11:16 AM EDT
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First: March 18, 2012 Last: March 22, 2012 |
You guys are a talkative bunch, aren't you!?! I find the most difficult aspect of dating at 45+ is being set in my ways and others set in theirs. It seems more difficult to blend families. Does any one else have the same expereinces or different ones? |
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