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Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at October 26, 2011 7:45 PM EDT
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"That's my vision, at least...to meet new friends and converse about anything and everything without having to stop and switch topics!" |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at October 27, 2011 8:57 AM EDT
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No one tempted to join in the conversation? Is everyone busy with fall actvities? Well, tell us about it! Feeling sorry for yourselves and the inability to find a compatible person to date? We want to hear what you have to say! We may not be able to help, but we can listen! If we try to help too much...you can even tell us to back off! It's early, but I'm choosing the wines to serve at the discussion...we're just waiting for you! Fruit juices, soda, tea or coffee for the teetotalers! Who's bringing the cheese and crackers? <tips stemmed glass> CHEERS!
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at October 27, 2011 7:03 PM EDT
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Wow scrboro, you DO start early!! I'm on the Pacific Coast in Washington State, I think a few pages back you said Mid-Atlantic. I wonder if I'm seeing your post time (time zone) or mine. Well either way, wine on the mind would have been early! Then there's those that thought I was a total lush for dropping my kids at school and heading to the bar- of course most other parents or teachers had no idea I worked a night job, rushed home to get my kids up and ready for school before I had a little while to relax. I look back at it now and remember enjoying it so much! I didn't get to the bar every morning, everyone else lives in the daytime. I had to fit sleep in between everyone elses REAL TIME. Gee, maybe THATS why I have a hard time finding a compatible partner! |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at October 28, 2011 9:02 AM EDT
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There's no one really posting on the discussion forums or the message boards...that's why I've tried bribing them with wine and cheese! This AARP website is full of minor annoyances and the programming is the pits! I have one son who is a programmer/analyst and even with "sticky" problems, they never took this long to get things "right!" He used to laugh about what they called "eye-dee-ten-tee" problems!" I asked what that was and he said "ID10T"..."if you write it out, what does it spell?" Well, he was talking about end-user idiots, but the requests most members have made to Community help are just simple things, really, found on most message boards and are there for the comfort and enjoyment of the people who use them. The more difficult the board is to navigate, the fewer who will keep coming back. That's not a difficult concept to understand. Things must be pretty slack on the left coast...I don't know of any bars that are open in the mornings here...maybe I'm sheltered. What did you do on your night job? I did that shift for a while as a critical care nurse. Sometimes when I came home I was too "wound up" to sleep, so there were times I would drink a beer and tomato juice. Only problem, as soon as I went to sleep, I'd wake up to tinkle. Benadryl made me hyper, so I switched to taking Dramamine when I needed a little help falling asleep occasionally. It helped with the nausea I'd feel from being sleepless for hours plus it made me me sleepy. I have sensitivities to quite a few drugs and have never been able to take sleeping pills. I eventually had to get off that shift...I may be a "night owl' and stay up late at home, but I am definitely diurnal when it comes to keeping a regular schedule! I'm having trouble finding a compatible partner because most of the men I meet have "issues!" I don't want anyone I have to try to help get "fixed"...I want him to do that on his own time...then he can get back in touch! There's another reason I'm finding as well. I know of at least four men who are caregivers for their elderly mothers or sisters. This is a modern phenomenon, I think. It always used to be the women in the family (daughters & daughters-in-law) but with so many divorces and elderly living longer...it seems that the roles have changed. My life is fine the way it is...having an intelligent partner with a sense of humor (and a few other attributes) would enhance it and I know I am the type of person who thrives in a "couples" relationship. I don't want to marry again, but who knows the future? I never say never! There are many impediments these days to finding someone you would desire to be in a relationship with. I don't want to "settle" and I am sure there are many others who feel the same way. Cheers! <tips glass of wine> How about some scrambled eggs? Time for breakfast!
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at October 30, 2011 10:20 AM EDT
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Hey Mimi, I'm still here! I won't be skipping out anytime soon, just a busy couple of days and a shared computer. I still have one teen with me, a Jr in high school- it was conference week and of course Halloween Weekend since it falls on a Monday this year. Thank heavens we're in an area that has very few Trick-or-Treaters. More likely it's the front of this house, steep stairs that most parents won't let their kids take alone and the parents don't want to climb the stairs with them. Dosen't hurt my feelings any. I bet you could find an open a.m. bar if you were working night shift! Well, maybe. Different states I suppose. Here in Wa.State liquer/beer is allowed to be sold/served from 6am to 2am. BUT at that time there were several 3 shift booming industries, now the only 3 shift I can think of is the grocery, hospital and prison. I can only think of one tavern in town today that caters to the early a.m. crowd. My regular paycheck nightshift job was waitressing, then when that business burned down and they decided not to rebuild I went to the same shift at the grocery I mentioned, frying donuts for places all over town. Why? The rest of the time, besides being a single parent, I was an "artisan". I made jewelry and scroll saw wood goodies that sold in boutiques and the seasonal art fairs in the tourist areas. Other stuff too but thats the gist. Oh boy do I know what you mean about needing to be "fixed"! No thank you!! I'm sure we all have some kind of baggage- how could we possibly get to senior and beyond without it? I still DON'T want to hear every gory detail about your evil X from 15 years ago or the never ending duplicity of your last girlfriend! My personal favorite is the decidedly physically unattractive guy that wants us to think how lucky we are to have his attention because EVERY woman he meets is flirting with him, WANTS him because he's such a fine catch! Oh really? I know it's not just men, women play it too. I like my life too, but it would be nice to share some time with an adult man sometimes  . I honestly don't think I would be a good full time live in mate. I think my ideal would be someone like a trucker, day or two home, then gone for several...I must say I loved THIS: "ID10T", I'll have to borrow that sometime. YUM, scrambled eggs and wine! Yes please! Talk to you soon KJo |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at October 30, 2011 3:04 PM EDT
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KJo...please tell us more about your jewelry and crafting when you have the time. I make jewelry myself...but I would love to be more into making Sterling Silver jewelry. i suppose I need to get out and take a few classes in metalwork/jewelry design! Best, Mimi
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at November 3, 2011 1:33 PM EDT
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Reading thru these post, some good thought s here! I have been single almost nine yrs. now, not by choice !! It has been an interesting ride being re introduced into this crazy singles life!!!!!!!! But hey I it can be so much fun!!!!!!!!! Let me say if I get the oppurtunity, which at this time is knocking on my back door;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;; I am going for it. Life is too short too be alone; although it has to be with the right person!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at November 4, 2011 2:58 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?: Thanks, Lynn4872, for sharing your thoughts! Please come back and contribute when you can! Reading thru these post, some good thought s here! I have been single almost nine yrs. now, not by choice !! It has been an interesting ride being re introduced into this crazy singles life!!!!!!!! But hey I it can be so much fun!!!!!!!!! Let me say if I get the oppurtunity, which at this time is knocking on my back door;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;; I am going for it. Life is too short too be alone; although it has to be with the right person!!!!!!!!!!! Posted by LYNN4872 |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at November 4, 2011 8:39 PM EDT
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First: October 22, 2011 Last: November 4, 2011 |
Hey Carrie, Like you I have been on my own for such along time, that it hard to believe that I still wish to be with someone at this stage of my life. I am in my mid 60's , and the children are gone, however I am blessed to have my grandchildren somewhat close. I do get to see them and be grandma. As for retiring I did it in 2010 and it was one of the best desisons I could have done. I would suggest just doing a little home work, crunch some numbers, get a little advice, and you be maybe surprised. I have been to the Bahamas this summer and have made numerous short trips in and around my state of In. and Ill. It only takes some faith and than go for it. Thinking about it helps to make it a reality. Keep dreaming. |
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Re: Wouldn't it be great to have simple conversations with other singles about anything one might want to discuss?
posted at November 19, 2011 11:51 PM EST
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First: November 19, 2011 Last: December 17, 2011 |
I'm like the others who posted - lonely sometimes, but not always. I'd like to talk to others on line, but I would also like to meet singles as friends to join me for a meal out or a movie. Not really looking for romance (did that - got the T shirt) but for friends , men and women, In the meantime, somebody start the ball rolling with a good topic and let's see who jumps in. |
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