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You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
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I think that is pretty tough to do now that I'm in my Autumn Season! Any thoughts friends?
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 2:23 PM EST
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Perhaps we adults can learn something from chilldren with regard to this. The hurts, and losses still remain a part of their lives, but they have the uncanny ability to reachout and love. Children seem to have the ability to love without limits. They seem to be able to do this over and over regardless of the scale of loss. |
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 3:01 PM EST
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I've experienced 55 yrs of life,chose Love, when you love you don't have any room for anything else! (The bad stuff won't have room to come in, try it!) |
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 3:45 PM EST
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I was married for 31 years. Bill passed away after a long illness in 2005. I've been alone ever since and I like it! Now at age 55 I advanced in my carreer as a teacher and massage therapist, and I enjoy my quiet time, reading, relaxing or just staying in bed on my days off. It took me awhile to get used to living alone and not having a partner but now I couldn't be happier! I still feel my hubby "around me" at times and it actually feels good to me. I have friends I see on a regular basis and at work I'm surrounded by young people. Since my husband died I havnt dated, haunt been with a man PERIOD. I have no urge whatsoever to get involved with anybody and the only thing that gets me mad are people who constantly tell me to find another man and that "I'm too young to spend the rest of my life alone" . I just want to tell them to shut up and mind their own business. I'm not lonely and I'm not grieving....in fact I believe I'm happier than they are! Why is it so hard for some to understand that? |
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 5:23 PM EST
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I just heard a new one: The only whole heart is a broken heart." I have thought about this one and I can see the logic. We have to be smart about getting into relationships (choose well), and then give it our best shot. So what if we get hurt! We also grow, hopefully, and survive, and live to love another day. |
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 6:23 PM EST
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In Response to You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...: I think that is pretty tough to do now that I'm in my Autumn Season! Any thoughts friends? Posted by Nancy195578 Nancy: It's not fun to be hurt but in my experience as a senior citizen I realize that holding on to that hurt makes everything worse. I have learned to forgive everyone for any hurt that they have caused in the past and I wake up feeling refreshed and new in God's grace every day. Now, I believe that forgiving is from God and forgetting is a very human thing and harder to do, but you can do it. Just think that while you are nursing that hurt the person who caused it is running free and you are in chains. Set yourself free. It's a wonderful feeling. Trust me. I know from experience. Love to you...... |
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 7:25 PM EST
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Yes I have been told this saying. After a recent divorce of a marriage for 23 years and a beautiful daughter between us I have been left with this wisdom: In the n'th degree that I have been hurt, so have I loved to the n'th degree. Fear and anger take alot of physical and emotional energy to maintain. I took control of my feelings and I touched a man's arm, I later gave the man a hug, and when I was ready, when I was really really ready I laid a kiss on that man that he still hasn't forgot. Damn we made a breath taking kiss. I let my heart and my hormones lead me. I now love when I have the notion, when I'm ready, and when I really really want to. Isn't this the wisdom we gain after 50? Life is a runaway train I can't wait to get on....I'm already gone
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 10:37 PM EST
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In Response to Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...: In Response to You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that... : I guess I am just at the beginning of my Autumn years. I would say that for someone to believe it when you say you love them it has to be said like you truly have forgiven and forgotten the hurt from a past love and are ready to love again with all your heart. Posted by danieldelaney hey! i was just thinking about that earlier! :) get out of my head! :) (said with a smile in case you think i'm mean) i'm just a lot more careful with my love now.
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 11:06 PM EST
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Loving relationships are to be enjoyed. Most people though use relationships as a license to stress out, and be controlling and demanding. Enjoyment in love comes to those who are emotionally and mentally free to exist on their own. To those don't NEED a relationship in order to be happy, those who are happy already just as they are. When you aren't needy, you glow from the inside with self-confidence and fulfilllment, and people flock to you. Being happy just as you are also means being able to let others remain just as they are without trying to change them. It also means letting them go when they want out of a relationship without feeling that they owe you anything. Guilt and love are mutually exclusive. The bottom line is to be responsible for your own happiness. |
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 11:12 PM EST
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In Response to Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...: Love is a CHOICE; not a FEELING! Treat others in the Spirit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control and you will receive the same. Posted by ldamoulos you're right. love is a choice not a feeling. never thought about that before. guess i've always chosen love.
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Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...
posted at December 3, 2011 11:17 PM EST
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In Response to Re: You know that saying "love like you've never been hurt" or something like that...: Yeah...it's tough and it really hurts, but what's the alternative? If you show your hurt, you wind up in a shell with no chance for love at all. Keep looking up and hoping for the best. If you find horse poo under the tree on Christmas morning, look for the "pony" you asked Santa for...why else would it be there? Posted by scrborofaire Thoughts of love generate a "warm, fuzzy" feeling. Why ruin that with crappy thoughts of "horse poo"?!! Love can be whatever you make it out to be. Try being positive. . .
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