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Where do you meet new men?
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I've tried the 12 items or less line at the grocery store. I've tried online dating with no luck. I've gone to single's dances, joined online meetup groups, kareoke, gone to the local recr
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 19, 2012 9:53 AM EST
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First: February 12, 2012 Last: April 26, 2013 |
In Response to Re: Where do you meet new men?: I have often wondered the same. It seems everyone is wrapped up in their own lives and not looking to meet new people. I am 63 and would love to meet others(male and female) for friendships. Gone are the days when dating was the thing. Posted by Ready2LiveLife Dear Ready2LiveLife, You make a good point about "gone are the days when dating was the thing" I think we are looking to date, when we should be looking to get to know people first. The holidays are coming, and there are lots of opportunities for volunteering, and that is a fun thing to do , that gets you out, and you may find someone who is fun to be with! All those Toys for Tots events, thanksgiving dinners for needy people, and tons of volunteer opportunities this season! http://www.toysfortots.org/donate/toys.aspx |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 19, 2012 9:56 AM EST
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In Response to Re: Where do you meet new men?: Think a few of us are in the same boat, or in the same life span. I am only 57 and have this problem. Once you are divorced or widowed at our age it seem's that others have been through this and are more cautious about dating someone else. It may lead to more and that could be the part we are all scared of, new commintments after being set in our own way's. We all must make changes if we want to be with someone if only to date and have fun with. It doesn't have to lead to sex or marriage, just dating mates, fun together . ...Pam in Md. In Response to Re: Where do you meet new men? : Posted by Nana4two Nana4Two, Very good point regarding commitment! We get so cautious as we get closer to getting older! And, at 57, you are still young! |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 19, 2012 10:22 AM EST
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First: November 16, 2012 Last: February 26, 2013 |
Hi Louisie, Volunteering is a great idea. I started setting up volunteer programs in preparation to retire hopefully next year. Some worked and some weren't a good fit. I feel fine to try new things and not have to commit longterm before seeing if I like it. AARP and United Way have tons of volunteer opportunities online. Is anyone in this group from Massachusetts? I'd really like to meet friends with the possibility of meeting for a meal, a movie, etc. Is anyone else interested? Beth |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 19, 2012 5:58 PM EST
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First: March 4, 2009 Last: May 24, 2013 |
Girls, I guess that as a married lady, I have some tips for many of you. Remember the very realistic fact that men, especially older men have a tremendous advantage over all of you. They can date younger women really younger women. And if they are secure economically, for sure that they will find a young woman that is willing to be with any of them. sorry, that is reality. Now, here you are, a very especial woman, that is given the air by many of these old farts. what to do.? Well, I am afraid that you will need to spend some money on yourself. now, if you have money, don't even worry, you are lucky, you will find a young man that is willing to be your companion. So, here we are the normal not rich older gal. As I said before, get physically fit. go to the nearest plastic surgeon and start lifting everything that you can lift. and do whatever makes you happy, a new nose? some cheekbones, wonderful teeths? etc. Then when you are ready to face the world or men. make sure that you look 20 years younger, or at least you can start by acting 20 years younger, remember, you can never act like a teenybooper, after all, you are already old. Men, have enourmous egos, they want to be seen by others with women that look wonderful. and that have something interesting to say. Yes, I would start looking at many online dating that specialize in women of your age bracket. and start there. I am sure that you will find many surprises, so be careful. If you really want to find men, all the places that you have mentioned are already taken. so look for something new, and somewhere you will find your soulmate. Remember to smile, smile and look as if you are having the greatest time on this earth. Men like women that look as if they are having a wonderful time. |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 21, 2012 8:08 AM EST
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First: November 21, 2012 Last: November 21, 2012 |
To Rker...sigh...give me a break.At this point in my life I am so done with looking like a dolly girl just to make a man happy. If he can't accept me for the way I am, then I don't need him. At this point of my life I am content and if someone comes along that's great but if not, that's ok too. I don't need a man to fulfill me. LOL plus it's nice to eat crackers in bed if you want, stay up late at night reading a good book, and not fighting over the remote(I can watch whatever I want).I was married for 25 years by the way, been divorced for 10. I do understand that it does get lonely once in a while being single but it's all about how you feel about yourself. I enjoy my own company and I've done a lot of things solo and actually had a blast, was nice not having someone complain about being bored, wanting to leave, or do something else. I think in the end it's just getting out in the community where you live and getting involved, weither in volunterring, joining groups like the friends of the library,etc.,or going to the place where all the older locals hang out with the idea of just going there for coffee and good conversation. By the way I am 55 years young. :) |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 21, 2012 11:58 AM EST
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First: November 21, 2012 Last: November 21, 2012 |
In Response to Where do you meet new men?: I've tried the 12 items or less line at the grocery store. I've tried online dating with no luck. I've gone to single's dances, joined online meetup groups, kareoke, gone to the local recreation center, etc. I really don't know where to meet new men. The singles dances have changed. They're all clicks and social groups that won't let let you even sit at their table or even talk to you. The guys in the group won't ask you to dance because they're afraid the women in the group will get mad. I work part time and would like to have a social life. Maybe, some input from other singles would help me. I enjoy almost everything and would love to meet some new men. Thanks, Lori Posted by halley888 Hi there! I think you're long wait is over. Apparently, with the methods you used in meeting new men you've done so far, the chance of you getting to meet Mr. Right was kinda slim. You know what, I have a suggestion for you. Try to visit this link: youngwifeclub.com/register_single_2.php?refid=1228 and you will know what I'm talking about. From there, you will be able to meet active online people who are interested in people like you. Mind you, the members there, are very professional, achievers in their own field and most importantly, SINGLE! Once you've gone to the link I provided you, I suggest to make friends with people from other countries because they might be your soulmate or they can help you find your soulmate. I hope I was able to help on my own little way. Pease keep in touch and update me. I'm so excited for you :)
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 21, 2012 1:40 PM EST
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In Response to Re: Where do you meet new men?: To Rker...sigh...give me a break.At this point in my life I am so done with looking like a dolly girl just to make a man happy. If he can't accept me for the way I am, then I don't need him. At this point of my life I am content and if someone comes along that's great but if not, that's ok too. I don't need a man to fulfill me. LOL plus it's nice to eat crackers in bed if you want, stay up late at night reading a good book, and not fighting over the remote(I can watch whatever I want).I was married for 25 years by the way, been divorced for 10. I do understand that it does get lonely once in a while being single but it's all about how you feel about yourself. I enjoy my own company and I've done a lot of things solo and actually had a blast, was nice not having someone complain about being bored, wanting to leave, or do something else. I think in the end it's just getting out in the community where you live and getting involved, weither in volunterring, joining groups like the friends of the library,etc.,or going to the place where all the older locals hang out with the idea of just going there for coffee and good conversation. By the way I am 55 years young. :) Posted by UnicornDragon I don't doubt that what you are saying is true for you. But that was not the impression that I got from several of the posters here and if you see the title of this thread it does state where do you meet new men. Those women are trying to find their soulmates or men that will become their friend and companion. Apparently that is not your priority. So, in order to be successful in their quest, they have to work at it. I don't doubt that there will be a man that you will meet and be content with what you have to offer.But, many times that is not enough. Besides being 55 is very young. these days. Although you are are in a terrible age group to find a mate, Most of the men are either married or are divorced in that age group. and some of those divorced men, In my book many aren't worth a dime. Now, as you get older, now you will find widowers that are also looking for companionship. and that they consider that 55 is for many their kid's age group. So you see. I do understand your position, but these other ladies have a different priority. Actually I most definitely will suggest that they start with an Internet dating services that especializes in men and women of a certain age. Of course they do have to try all the other avenues that you suggest. but these online services have developed into very good meeting new people sites. |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 22, 2012 8:03 PM EST
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First: November 22, 2012 Last: November 22, 2012 |
In Response to Re: Where do you meet new men?: To Rker...sigh...give me a break.At this point in my life I am so done with looking like a dolly girl just to make a man happy. If he can't accept me for the way I am, then I don't need him. At this point of my life I am content and if someone comes along that's great but if not, that's ok too. I don't need a man to fulfill me. LOL plus it's nice to eat crackers in bed if you want, stay up late at night reading a good book, and not fighting over the remote(I can watch whatever I want).I was married for 25 years by the way, been divorced for 10. I do understand that it does get lonely once in a while being single but it's all about how you feel about yourself. I enjoy my own company and I've done a lot of things solo and actually had a blast, was nice not having someone complain about being bored, wanting to leave, or do something else. I think in the end it's just getting out in the community where you live and getting involved, weither in volunterring, joining groups like the friends of the library,etc.,or going to the place where all the older locals hang out with the idea of just going there for coffee and good conversation. By the way I am 55 years young. :) Posted by UnicornDragon I totally agree with you. I am 60, was married for 26 years and divorced 13 years. During the first few years after my divorce, I was in a group of divorced people. We had a lot of good times going and doing things as a group. But, nothing last forever. I moved closer to my daughter to help her, into a senior apartment building for 55+. There are 200 units in the apartment complex. I met a male friend who I now consider my companion. We do not live together, nor are we "lovers". We are friends that hang out together. It is really nice to have a friend that one can call on. I still would like to have a "soulmate", but really do not believe that will ever happen. I haven't had one even when I was married. I accept things for what they are. If one is blessed with a spouse that is your "soulmate", get on your knees and thank God. There are couples out there who are perfect partners for each other. But I really believe this is something that you can not go out and find. From reading these post, I believe we all want to be in a "soulmate" type relationship. I believe that we need to live life that we have been dealt and enjoy as we do not know how many more days or years we will be able too.  |
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Re: Where do you meet new men?
posted at November 23, 2012 8:16 PM EST
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First: November 23, 2012 Last: November 23, 2012 |
In Response to Where do you meet new men?: I've tried the 12 items or less line at the grocery store. I've tried online dating with no luck. I've gone to single's dances, joined online meetup groups, kareoke, gone to the local recreation center, etc. I really don't know where to meet new men. The singles dances have changed. They're all clicks and social groups that won't let let you even sit at their table or even talk to you. The guys in the group won't ask you to dance because they're afraid the women in the group will get mad. I work part time and would like to have a social life. Maybe, some input from other singles would help me. I enjoy almost everything and would love to meet some new men. Thanks, Lori Posted by halley888 Lori, humm, as a man I would say a grocery store can be as good a place as any..When you see a guy that stirkes your fancy ask him where he got some item you see in his shopping cart. What can you loose! Guys like to be approached just like you gals do and if there is a connection it makes it worthwhile.. If I think of anything else, I will reply again. Good luck in your search..JAH |
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