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Life Is Great After 50!
posted at December 3, 2011 12:09 PM EST
First: December 3, 2011
Last: December 3, 2011
I am tired of people on here whining about how they got hurt in relationships past, how they can't trust again., and all the rest. You know, love is a CHOICE not a feeling. Let me tell you about my life now. Maybe this can happen to you, if you love yourself enough first.
My x used me. Because of him, I had to file bankruptcy. Enough said. I chose to move on from this, and keep an open heart. You cant judge tomorrow's love by what happend in the past. Fast forward. I now have two guys in love with me. Both are younger. (a whole new wonderful experience in itself) I constantly get asked out, by men from 25 to 65, and that sure opens up the dating pool. No, I am not a beauty, and I am now 60.
If you want to find love again, you have to open your heart and get past all the hurt you have suffered before. What's the alternative? Being alone forever? Another thing that annoys me, is you dont have to be married...why does everybody think this way?? I am happily single, with two boyfriends I see on alternate weekends, and then they go home. And I have my life back. In the meantime, I dont have to do someon's laundry, I dont have to clean up their messes, and my house stays constantly clean without having to do much to keep it that way. I don't have to cook (they take me out, or cook for me) and when you don't see someone 24/7 a funny thing happens. When you do see someone, it's hot. It's new, and you don't get on eachother's nerves. My guys even know about eachother, and don't have a problem with it.
I love both of them (YES it's possible to love 2 people at the same time) and all you soul-mate, one love for life, etc. attitudes are just cheating yourself. I love them both for different reasons, and can't imagine my life without either one of them. So here, is one senior citizen, who has more fun at 60, than whe EVER had at 20, and wouldnt go back for the world. But you know, you have to love yourself. When you constantly worry about who you can trust, and if they are going to hurt you again., you give off that vibe to a man, and he can feel it. When you live in the moment, and open yourself up to love, it just seems to follow you around, and you become irrestible to a man. He doesnt know why, he doesn't understand it, but he just can't seem to stay away from you. You suddenly find yourself like me. Never home on the weekend, always busy, and more men around you, than you can handle sometimes. It can happen to you, I'm proof. It happened to me, and I'm nothing special.
Don't let old attitudes and insecurites get in the way of the best life possible, at the best time of your life. Open yourself up to ideas that you might not consider otherwise. Accept that date from that man who's 20 years younger than you. Go out with a man who's a different race than you. Go out with that guy who's shorter, balder, than you would normally be attracted to. They are all people like you. Sterotypes and pre-conceived ideas shoved down our throats all our lives, form attitudes we don't even realize we have. And they are WRONG..Don't listen. Move to your own ideals, and hell. We are old enough not to give a damn about what anybody thinks about us anymore, anyway!