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Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at July 3, 2012 10:18 AM EDT
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Grandparents have a wealth of knowledge on raising children, but, today's mobile society does not always put them close to their grandchildren. What advice would you give to young parents today? Is parenting really different today? What did you do that could help them to get parenting right, or , what would you tell them not to do, to avoid mistakes?


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Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at August 4, 2012 8:14 AM EDT
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When we grew up, the school bully used his fists to fight with and the results were a few bruises and bumps. Today, our neighborhoods are full of guns, and the fights are to the death. Too many young people in this country are killed or maimed by guns. It has changed parenting considerably. Today's parents can not allow their children to go outside to play  and feel that they will be safe. Today's children are more often home, sitting , rather than outside getting exercise, and acting like kids.
Can we turn this around? Are we willing to accept that we will always be a violent society,where weapons are so common?

After the recent theater shooting in Colorado, I went to the local theater for a play. And, during intermission I walked outside in front of the theater ony to discover  that right next door was a gun shop, with windows displaying over a hundred rifles, and pistols. I never even noticed the place before, even though I had been there many times. The gun shop didn't change, since it has been there for over fifty years, but, my attitude had changed, and I wished it weren't there.

Getting rid of the gun shops is not the answer. Getting rid of the attitude that it is acceptable to use guns for disputes is necessary, But, how do we do that? Is it our entertainment media that promotes it? Is it our inner city poverty? Is it the drug users and drug dealers that consider it part of doing business?

For our children don't we have the responsiblity to change this ? Do we just sit and read the papers daily, and accept the killings as part of American life?

Where do we start, if we want the killings to stop?

Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at August 4, 2012 8:34 PM EDT
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First: November 27, 2011
Last: May 31, 2013
To your original post, basically raising kids is still the same but with new technology, new places to go, new things to do, new cautions and discussions.

Since the only grand child that I have just turned (2) - my efforts have been the same as when I raised his mother.
1.  Help him LEARN and LEARN and make it something he want to do so he will continue on this journey his whole life.
- I will have to say that it also requires Grandma to kind of stay up on the newest technology (IPad) but in the same regards. his parents and I have given him a great foundation in (real paper) books too.
2.  Teach them safety
3.  Teach them respect for others & other life forms too  and how to share and play together; show them how good it feels to do something for someone else - even anonomously
4.  Teach them good personal habits from dental care to good nutrition
5.  Help them to stay active - there is so much sitting stuff for them to do but we faced that too with television.

Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at August 4, 2012 9:00 PM EDT
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Where do we start, if we want the killings to stop?
Posted by BettyCM


It has to be a change in people or being able to recognize and do something about those that might be having some mental problems.

Guns are only a method - if it wasn't a gun, it would be something else.  It is the human brain and psychic that seems to be the defining characteristic whether it be the way some relate to a living environment, a twisted mind or just those that are evil.

Ever read "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck who also wrote "The Road Less Traveled".

Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at August 19, 2012 7:25 PM EDT
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Thanks for the book recommendation, People of the Lie, I will get it.

I do believe we have a more difficult world to raise children in today. Our lives are so very busy now, with two parents working, and the children not always supervised. The latch key child is a given today, and it would have been unthinkable just 10 years ago.
Our societal problems of guns and drugs and violence are very much a part of our schools. And , even private schools are no longer the safe havens they once were. They, too, are troubled with too much violence, and struggling to deal with this problem.

Are the children in your neighborhood sent to empty homes? Are their good alternatives to offer after school  care in your neighborhood? Are your grandchildren always supervised? Are you an after school caregiver for young children?

Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at September 1, 2012 2:52 PM EDT
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First: August 26, 2012
Last: September 9, 2012
In Response to Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?:
Thanks for the book recommendation, People of the Lie, I will get it. I do believe we have a more difficult world to raise children in today. Our lives are so very busy now, with two parents working, and the children not always supervised. The latch key child is a given today, and it would have been unthinkable just 10 years ago. Our societal problems of guns and drugs and violence are very much a part of our schools. And , even private schools are no longer the safe havens they once were. They, too, are troubled with too much violence, and struggling to deal with this problem. Are the children in your neighborhood sent to empty homes? Are their good alternatives to offer after school  care in your neighborhood? Are your grandchildren always supervised? Are you an after school caregiver for young children?
Posted by BettyCM

Parenting is different today, because parents are different, and the society is different. I spoke to my neighbor last night, a 60 year old man, who was almost in tears because he had to return his adopted daughter, his step=daughter;s child, to her mother, at least temporarily. He has raised her since she was 2 years old, and the mother was on drugs. Now, the child has become disrespectful to him and his wife, and they felt they had to send her home, and teach her a lesson. Children today are disrespectful, and they see it modeled everywhere, school, TV, and their friend;s homes. Hearing him speak with such obvious hurt and pain, was heartwrenching.
I don't remember this type of parenting  in years gone by. It's different.

Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?

posted at December 17, 2012 11:49 AM EST
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Last: January 9, 2013
In Response to Re: Is Parenting Different Today? What Advice Would You Give New Parents?:
When we grew up, the school bully used his fists to fight with and the results were a few bruises and bumps. Today, our neighborhoods are full of guns, and the fights are to the death. Too many young people in this country are killed or maimed by guns. It has changed parenting considerably. Today's parents can not allow their children to go outside to play  and feel that they will be safe. Today's children are more often home, sitting , rather than outside getting exercise, and acting like kids. Can we turn this around? Are we willing to accept that we will always be a violent society,where weapons are so common? After the recent theater shooting in Colorado, I went to the local theater for a play. And, during intermission I walked outside in front of the theater ony to discover  that right next door was a gun shop, with windows displaying over a hundred rifles, and pistols. I never even noticed the place before, even though I had been there many times. The gun shop didn't change, since it has been there for over fifty years, but, my attitude had changed, and I wished it weren't there. Getting rid of the gun shops is not the answer. Getting rid of the attitude that it is acceptable to use guns for disputes is necessary, But, how do we do that? Is it our entertainment media that promotes it? Is it our inner city poverty? Is it the drug users and drug dealers that consider it part of doing business? For our children don't we have the responsiblity to change this ? Do we just sit and read the papers daily, and accept the killings as part of American life? Where do we start, if we want the killings to stop?
Posted by BettyCM

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