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What have you told your elderly parents that they believed?
posted at January 16, 2013 10:05 AM EST
First: January 14, 2013
Last: January 16, 2013
|I was communicating in another string about frustrations with my elderly parents and how they are digging in their heels. How do you get them to walk another path toward a safer place, independent living, etc?|
Re: What have you told your elderly parents that they believed?
posted at January 16, 2013 8:22 PM EST
First: November 27, 2011
Last: May 18, 2013
Glad you started a new thread - I will respond to both of your today's post here.
1. My father died in 1981 - so there was just my mother - she had always been deaf and had never worked outside the home
2. She was 59 when my father died and did well for a good long while -living alone BUT my husband and I took care of the home as much as we could.
3. Everything started to fall apart in 1999 -
She was moved into the new facility by the end of 2000 - took her a while to actually accept it but she lived there for 12 years until her health began to really deteriorate. No, it was not easy listening to her tell me how awful I was for moving her to "this" place and selling her home. It's like they have to say it and after awhile things got better until her health started to fail.
I think it is different for you because there are still (2) of them. But I have seen couples do well in the independent living apartments but I doubt if that is the way they are thinking.
I will say that I understand more about it today - I think I will be the same way. It is their home, the place where they are most comfortable.
You do what you can but you must also continue to live your life too - and like I said in the other post - just get as prepared as you can and see what happens when one of them is left alone, without the other - that does change things a whole lot.
Some meals on wheels programs are done via local churches.