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Dealing With Escorting Spouse Into Public Restrooms
posted at September 11, 2012 4:07 PM EDT
First: September 11, 2012
Last: September 11, 2012
I have to assist my disabled wife on to/off of toilets as her neruo conditions has taken over 80% of her arms & legs strength. It's always an uncertain thing when we go anywhere as she cannot "hold it" very long. I have accompanied her when necessary. but she is reluctant to go out because of this.
I spoke with the ADA folks at the city, county, state and federal level and only the federal ever thought about this and they said a definate no to going into an opposite gender restroom. The process they said is to contact an employee of the location who will stop new people from entering and after all existing people exit I can take her in while they guard the door. Of course everyone knows how long women take in the restroom so this means waiting an average of 5 mins (so far) to go in and then it takes a long time for her to finish so others not allowed to enter may wait 12-15 minutes.
This whole idea is ridiculous as the times I have entered with her I announce "male cartaker coming in" and just go to the handicap stall. I don't look around and so far no one has objected. Once when in the restroom I heard a woman enter and announced and she simply said "I don't care."
This is a matter that needs to be addressed as it affects a lot of people but nobody seems to take notice or care. Will AARP clear it up? What to do?
Re: Dealing With Escorting Spouse Into Public Restrooms
posted at October 1, 2012 7:56 AM EDT
First: October 1, 2012
Last: October 1, 2012
|Can't clear it up - but I think you handled it well enough. As long as you are considerate of those already in a restroom by announcing your need to be in the handicap facility assisting your wife, give anyone with objections the time to get out and those entering you notify that you are in there and for what purpose. Or else start dressing in drag queen style|