I am a single 45 yerar ond woman caring for my elderlt aand ull parents. I am on disibility for several chronic illness myslef. I have 4 siblings who seem to think they are involved but we hardly tlak and so much trouble getting them to call backe. I live in Covington, LA with a brother and sister both in TX a brother in GA and a sister in New Orleans, LA anout 45 min away. It is very hadr trying to get them to really understand the facts of what really goes no. They do not fully understand the limations that me and my parents have. I try to explain to them and thwey think I am either exagerating or not rally having the issues I am dealing with and just complaining and making up the extent of the limitation we have here and how tasks that seem simple to them are aa major isssue. My Mom doesn't want to bother or worry anyone and isn';t accepting that her Parkinson';s makes her not be able to do things nshe could before. She has a hard timem accepting that she can no longer take care of everyone and needs more help than she wants to admit. Her and I discuss eveything and she tells me how hard it is for her, how she feels like she must have been a bad mother because my sibling hardly call her and when they do she get so afraid that if she tells them how difficult thing truly are they won't call her again, and have many talks about her needing to accvept her limitation, and my father is putting such a stress on pur relationship. When I have made promisses to her  about many thing I will keep them. My biggest problem is trying to get my sibling to belive me. They wiill arange family functions without my involovement and thik that if they make the travel arrangements it will nbe cool. They don't understand the stress and planning that has to be done before had like just getting readt. When I try to tell them about the before and after that I have to deal with they don't belive me. They ti k that I am trying to just consider my inconvence. My Mom doesnt want to say anything but whne I try to set the limitations we have It causes conflict and my sibs think I am the problem. One sister told me after I was trying to tell her about the stress my Dad is puting on Mom and my relationship. She told me that I was causingt them problems because of my health issues which she think either dont exist or they are not as extensive or diblitating as they are. I was recently hospitalized for 7 days had to deal withj making all the arrangement for my parents and being very ill myself at the tim e. I kept trying to call her be sure she would at lest call and check on them but she didn't caal me back or my parents for the entire 7 days. I left messages on her home phone and cell phone and Mom let her a message that I was going in the hospital. Not one call. Thank God for my aunt but I would not know what I would have done if she would have been out of town. It was not like this was a planned stay or any idea it would be a 7 day one. I had to ask a neighbor if it would be alright for my parents would have to call them in the night incase the need help fast. Ifd Mom falls and hits her head my Dad has Alzheimer's and they don't belive me when I tell them he doesn't know how to use the phone if they need 911.
I am jsut at a loss. I need to care for myself and them. But how do I get my sibs to even answer a call. Any advice please. I need some!