Join AARP
Join for Just $16 A Year
- Discounts on travel and everyday savings
- Subscription to AARP The Magazine
- Free membership for your spouse or partner
Message Boards Directory
Welcome to the AARP Discussion Board. Here you can talk with peers about current events ranging from Social Security to caring for your parents to the latest on health care reform. It is also the perfect place to exchange healthy eating recipes and job hunting tips.
These forums are for you to engage and have fun meeting new people. Just remember the community code: Be nice!
need to move closer to my daughter
False
Transitions
need to move closer to my daughter
<font face="arial, helvetica, sans-serif" size="1"><div>About to become a grandparent? Wondering what is next after the death of a spouse? Transitions in life can be tougher than we sometimes expect. Meet others who may be going through the same thing as you and may be able to offer wise advice.</div><div><br /></div></font>
I am trying to find housing closer to my daughter.In this economy there are obstacles ,hard to find housing that is not on a campus setting, party area, landllords that are taking advantage of people
0
Cat:edeb10e3-fb61-498e-99ea-390824fc4299Forum:5cfb1d08-0e43-4dac-b21e-392834ecb22a
Cat:edeb10e3-fb61-498e-99ea-390824fc4299Forum:5cfb1d08-0e43-4dac-b21e-392834ecb22aDiscussion:37033ffd-d07d-4bfa-ab77-125dd3c1072c
Forums » Personal Growth » Transitions » need to move closer to my daughter
|
need to move closer to my daughter
posted at October 6, 2012 4:28 PM EDT
|
Posts: 7
First: July 6, 2012 Last: May 9, 2013 |
I am trying to find housing closer to my daughter.In this economy there are obstacles ,hard to find housing that is not on a campus setting, party area, landllords that are taking advantage of people loosing their homes and increasing the rent.I own my own home now and do not qualify for assistance.I checked into housing for the elderly and handicapped, I am disabled but not to the point yet of needing assisted living.I do not like the fact that allot of the housing for the elderly and handicapped want financial information including account numbers.I contacted the chamber of commences in the area I am exploring, they had some gooblygoop excuse for allowing this.I feel very uncomfortable divulging this information.I checked on the Better Business web site allot of the places are not listed. Any ideas folks? 
|
|
Re: need to move closer to my daughter
posted at October 6, 2012 7:50 PM EDT
|
Posts: 1923
First: November 27, 2011 Last: May 18, 2013 |
In Response to need to move closer to my daughter: I am trying to find housing closer to my daughter.In this economy there are obstacles ,hard to find housing that is not on a campus setting, party area, landllords that are taking advantage of people loosing their homes and increasing the rent.I own my own home now and do not qualify for assistance.I checked into housing for the elderly and handicapped, I am disabled but not to the point yet of needing assisted living.I do not like the fact that allot of the housing for the elderly and handicapped want financial information including account numbers.I contacted the chamber of commences in the area I am exploring, they had some gooblygoop excuse for allowing this.I feel very uncomfortable divulging this information.I checked on the Better Business web site allot of the places are not listed. Any ideas folks? Posted by tiny450 You didn't say how old you are or your level of activity but if you haven't looked into senior independent living, I would advise you to do so. In these facilities, at least like the one my mother was in for about 12 + years, you can be as active or as docile as you want to be. I moved my mother into one in metro Atlants before I sold her house. They look at your income to see if you qualify for any subsidies - you may or may not depending upon the amount of INCOME coming in each month - HUD has a formula for determining the amount that you might qualify. My mother's apartment was one-BR, walk-in closet, pretty good size bathroom, a small kitchen and a LR / eating area combined. About 700 sq ft. - they had security 24/7, a salon, laundry room on each floor, a computer room, exercise room, meeting rooms, staff to help you, maintenance, some meals could be catered if you didn't want to cook, large secure parking area, transportation to grocery store, gatherings, special events, etc. All of this for a rent less than a market rate of $ 700 - that includes everything(even basic cable) except telephone. Any subsidy given is based on your income less medical expenses, etc. The complexes are of different quality and amenities - the one that my mother was is was very nice. The complexes are done like this because they were built with s combination on private (or non-profit) and public money. There are a mixture of full pay and subsidized residents. Sect 8 always has a waiting list but market and Sect. 236 (inome based subsidy) is usually alway open. I would give you the web address of the one my mother was in but their website is being redesigned right not. If you are interested in something like this - here is a link to the HUD locator by state: HUD: Inventory of Units for the Elderly and Persons with Disabilities |
|
|
Re: need to move closer to my daughter
posted at October 7, 2012 5:43 PM EDT
|
|
Posts: 1923
First: November 27, 2011 Last: May 18, 2013 |
In Response to Re: need to move closer to my daughter: thanks for the responses.I am 60 years old.I did not know about HUD.You have given me allot of hope.Thanks Posted by tiny450 That's what I like to give - HOPE 60 years old might be a problem - the one my mother was in, had a beginning age of 62 for those not qualified as disabled However, you can always call the Dept of Aging in the city where you want to move and they can also send you their list of housing available. |
|
|
Re: need to move closer to my daughter
posted at October 11, 2012 12:17 AM EDT
|
|
Posts: 3030
First: March 2, 2008 Last: May 22, 2013 |
In Response to Re: need to move closer to my daughter: I agree that you should look into the Department of Aging in your area or near your daughter, if possible. My husband and I are both age 65, own our home, but I'm the one who is seriously thinking of down-sizing into senior housing that offers services. Our daughter and her husband, both age 41, live 800 miles away from us, work full-time and are raising a 2 year old son. I would rather stay here to access help as I realize that we can't depend on her to care for us as we age. Have you discussed this with your daughter? Will she be able to help you move or tend to your needs in your later years? This is a different generation where our kids are busy working and raising their own families. Do you want to depend on her? I think most of us want to make it as easy as possible for them in our later years. I would look into senior housing now knowing that a move will be a lot of work. Start by eliminating everything that's not important so that going from a home to an apartment isn't complicated. You may need to hire a lawyer to take care of your assets and will so that your daughter doesn't have to manage this if she's at a distance. You're still a young senior, so start looking now before others have to make decisions for you. It's difficult, but I wish that everything turns out well for you. |
Forums » Personal Growth » Transitions » need to move closer to my daughter
