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Protect Kids From Sexual Abuse

Recent scandals reinforce the importance of vigilance

En español |Sadly, child sexual abuse is in the news once again.

In Washington, D.C., this week, a prominent swim coach took a leave of absence from his job after accusations surfaced that he'd had an inappropriate sexual relationship with a teen swimmer nearly three decades ago.

See also: Keep your grandkids safe.

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All adults can play a role in keeping our children safe. — Getty Images

In Philadelphia, a Catholic monsignor was sentenced to three to six years in prison for his role in a pedophile scandal. Elsewhere in Pennsylvania, Penn State University is still reeling from the prolonged abuse of kids by football coach Jerry Sandusky.

The headlines are reminding us how vulnerable kids can be. We teach them to trust and revere the adult leaders in their lives — family members, coaches, teachers, babysitters, clergy and other leaders in our community.

But sometimes these trusted adults are the very people from whom we need to protect our children.

All adults — including parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles — can play an important role in preventing and spotting the signs of sexual abuse in the children we love. Here are some key steps you can take and signs to look for. Keep in mind that family members should first consult with a child's parents before taking any action.


  • Educate yourself about sexual abuse. Understand the broad range of sexually abusive acts, including fondling, forcing a child to touch an adult's sexual organs, sexual intercourse, sexual exploitation, forced prostitution, forcing a child to pose for pornographic films or photos, indecent exposure or exhibitionism, exposing a child to the act of sexual intercourse, masturbation or pornography. Sexual abuse may involve physical force, bribery or intimidation but may also be very subtle.
  • Be aware. Know where your children and grandchildren are at all times. Do your homework about the location of sexual offenders in your community by visiting the National Sex Offender Public Website. If there are known offenders near you, learn how to handle the situation at Stop It Now.
  • Remember that child abusers and sex offenders can be anyone in our families or community — older siblings or cousins, extended family members or close family friends, male or female, and all races and socioeconomic levels. Also keep in mind that children of all ages can be victims of sexual abuse, even infants or strong teens.
  • One commonality among sexual abuse cases is that victims quite often know their abusers. Experts say abusers are most frequently adults our kids trust. Get to know the adults in their lives and observe the kids interacting with them. If you notice a child is uncomfortable or hesitant around an adult, it could be a red flag.
  • Talk to the children about appropriate sexual behavior, and be specific. Make sure they know when to say "no" if someone wants to touch them improperly. Tell kids how to get help if someone is making them uncomfortable or scared, or is touching them in the wrong ways. Start these conversations at a very young age and repeat them often, using age-appropriate language and levels of detail. The more comfortable our children are talking about sexual issues in general, the more likely they will feel safe telling us about abuse.

Next: Recognizing the signs of sexual abuse. »

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