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Why Men Should Date Women Their Own Age

Compatibility, emotional maturity — and, yes, great fun — are just a few of the reasons

For a Perfect Date, Find a Boomer Woman

I’ve deliberately dated women close to my age for the past 15 years, and I believe boomer women make ideal dates, and mates, for boomer guys. Among the reasons:

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Boomer Women Are Fun

I was reminded of this the night my date showed me an old photo with her in a tie-dyed T-shirt and frizzy brown hair, piled high and shooting in all directions. We giggled ourselves silly about our flower-powered pasts. It was the most enjoyable date I’d had in a long time — and it drove home the fact that when it comes to later-life dating, “Fun Is Job 1.”

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Boomer Women Are Strong

Boomer women have been through a lot. Many have taken a stand, marched for a cause, written letters to the editor or columns in print or online, demanded equality in the bedroom and stormed workplace barriers that blocked their economic progress. Being able to draw on that hard-won inner strength in a relationship makes them rock-solid partners in every way.

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Boomer Women Know How to Cope

Many women have raised great kids, job-hopped to make ends meet, volunteered in their communities, gone back to school and kept up long-standing friendships. No wonder they don’t cut and run at the first sign of trouble in a relationship! Grit, pith, character — call it what you like, these experiences make your dinner partner unlikely to run out of lively stories any time soon.

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You Can Trust Boomer Women With Your Life

Nearly every boomer woman I’ve dated for more than one night has confessed “reporting back to base” — that is, to her tight-knit web of female friends — on the success of our outings. The trust and emotional-intimacy skills that a woman develops via her female friendships often prove transferable to her relationship with a guy. I wish every boomer guy could experience how sweet it is to be involved with a woman who’s not just your lover but also your best friend.

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Boomer Women Can Afford to Be Selective

Advances in earning power have freed boomer women from worrying about a man’s net worth. Most guys see this as a great leap forward: We needn’t “save” a woman to win her heart, while she can choose a man from love, not economic necessity.

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Time Is on Their Side

Both parties must invest time in a relationship if it is to thrive. That commodity is scarce to nonexistent in a woman’s child-rearing years, but it tends to reappear once she has successfully fledged her children. That means she (finally!) has the time required to devote to a relationship — and to you.

Ken Solin writes about dating for AARP.

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En español | The two questions that women over 50 ask me most frequently on a date are:

  1. "Why don't men your age date women their age?"
  2. "Are you still sexual?"

I have a lot to say about that second question, but that's another story. Besides, I feel even more strongly about the first.

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