At 65, Kenneth "Red" Wilson began exhibiting signs of early dementia after he retired from a career as coach of the frequently top-ranked football team at Bemidji High School. His mental decline was swift before he died of cancer eight years later in 1980.
"My sister and I were no longer at home, and so it fell to our mother to deal with Dad's day-to-day difficulties," said retired St. Paul surgeon Kent Wilson, 69. "By the time we needed to have a family discussion about end-of-life decisions, he was significantly demented and couldn't participate in the process."
Three decades after Red Wilson's death, efforts to encourage families to have "the conversation" are a major part of his son's retirement life. Now medical director for Honoring Choices Minnesota, he is spearheading an effort to ensure that — before a health crisis — patients, loved ones and health providers are clear about end-of-life decisions. A standardized advance health care directive can be downloaded.
AARP Minnesota and Twin Cities Public Television are joining other organizations in a campaign to take the program outside the walls of hospitals.
"We want to educate people that it's OK to think about these things and have conversations with their families," said Michele Kimball, AARP Minnesota state director. The organization will host tele-town halls for AARP members and will alert them to televised specials. In addition, AARP Minnesota will distribute Honoring Choices MN material at the state fair and other events.
More than 500 people, some of them with nonmedical backgrounds, have taken a 14-hour training course to become planning facilitators.
The facilitators are what sets Honoring Choices MN apart from other programs that make living wills available, said Kenneth Kephart, a geriatrician who heads senior services for Fairview Health Services in the Twin Cities.
"They can be anyone who has completed the standardized training, ranging from a nurse to members of the faith community," he said. All the facilitators receive the same training "and have a script to follow to get the discussion started."
More than 80 percent of the primary care physicians in the Twin Cities are affiliated with a large health care system, and all of those systems participate at some level in Honoring Choices MN. The next goal, Wilson said, is to expand the program to churches and social service organizations. Meanwhile, families interested in having the conversation led by a facilitator should talk to their primary care doctor.
Hubert "Skip" Humphrey, 68, a past president of AARP Minnesota and a member of AARP's national board, said his interest in helping families discuss end-of-life decisions is rooted in personal experience. His father, former Vice President Hubert H. Humphrey, was one of Minnesota's first in-home hospice patients before his death in 1978.
"Dad said, 'I want to die looking out on the lake at Waverly,' and that's how he passed away."