Kissing 101
You’re the Professor
By: Sallie Foley
Q: How do you teach a grown-up man to kiss? Through two marriages he never learned, or he’s forgotten how. He gives me a peck on the lips, and that’s about it.
A: The kiss is perhaps the most underutilized skill in any man’s sexual repertoire. And that’s a pity, because his handicap is likely all in his head. “Most men who don’t kiss were told somewhere along the line that they were bad at it,” says Lou Paget, the female sex-expert author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. “It’s a shame, because a man who’s a good kisser will likely get all the sex he can handle.”
If you want your man to pucker, be sure he knows that it’s the gateway to greater glories. Once you’ve told him you really dig kissing, offer him a playful demonstration of what rings your bell, Paget says. In your sexiest tone, tell him there’s something you’d like to show him—how you dream about being kissed. “Then kiss him exactly the way you wish he would kiss you. Ask him to imitate the kiss right back at you.” If he does it right, tell him (and show him) you loved it. If he botches it, try another demonstration.
Repeat as necessary.
From Sex & Love for Grownups, by Sallie Foley, 2005, pp. 59-60.
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