We Need to Talk

We Need to Talk Conversations

Source: AARP.org | September 2009

 

Level 1. When driving safety is not an immediate concern, the objectives of conversations are to: (a) gain useful information, (b) make driving an acceptable topic for conversation, and (c) lay the foundation for later conversations.

 

Who initiates the conversation?

When are opportunities to talk?

What is discussed?

Anyone in the family

Anytime; a natural part of conversation. Examples:

Weather reports about road conditions

News reports about an accident

Someone else stops driving

General road or traffic conditions

Meaning of driving

Trips or errands made

Expense of having a car

 

 

 

 

 

 

Level 2. When driving safety is an immediate concern, the objective is for a family member to make a change, either restricting or stopping driving.

 

Who?

When?

What?

Relationship to driver:

If married: Spouse usually preferred; then adult child or doctor

If not married: Either an adult child or doctor

Last resort: Police or government official

 

Characteristics of relationship:

q Person who is thought to have best interest in mind

q Person who knows driving ability

q Person who knows physical condition

Changes in medications*

Changes in health status*

Got lost driving in a familiar place*

Traffic ticket

q Car accident

q Doctor’s visit

* These are the top reasons older drivers think a conversation about driving is appropriate.

Observations of warning signs

Meaning of driving

Transportation needs and alternatives, especially family support.

q Advantages of limiting or stopping driving

q Potential risks to self or others

q Need to restrict driving

q Need to stop driving

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Personal Conversation Plan

Who in your family is the one most likely to be heard?

 

 

 

 

What upcoming opportunities do you have for conversations?

What do you want to accomplish in your next conversation?

 

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