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Background
Birthday: September 21
Gender: Male
Location:
SPRING HILL, Florida
United States
SPRING HILL, Florida
United States
School:
University of Iowa Yale University Mason City (Iowa) Junior College
University of Iowa Yale University Mason City (Iowa) Junior College
Work:
Former professor of psychology, Wake Forest University, Private Clinical Practice (psychotherapy, marriage counseling), Charlotte, N.C., Model Cities Director, Charlotte, N.C., O.D. Consulting Firm, Charlotte, N.C
Former professor of psychology, Wake Forest University, Private Clinical Practice (psychotherapy, marriage counseling), Charlotte, N.C., Model Cities Director, Charlotte, N.C., O.D. Consulting Firm, Charlotte, N.C
Hometown(s):
Mason City, Iowa Charlotte, N.C
Mason City, Iowa Charlotte, N.C
Quote:
Where you stand depends on where you sit. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior
Where you stand depends on where you sit. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior
About Me
My name is David A. Travland, Ph.D., clinical psychologist, OD Consultant, and Author. Along with my partner and co-author Rhonda Travland, we have written THE TOUGH & TENDER CAREGIVER, A Handbook for the Well Spouse. Our book is a tough-minded description of a New Caregiver Paradigm putting the needs of the caregiver first. It debunks the typical advice given to caregivers, such as "hang in there," or "you are never given more than you can handle." These are messages of ignorance which imply there is no light at the end of the tunnel, that caregiving is a life sentence. Instead, this upbeat book educates and encourages the reader with a completely unique understanding of how relationships really work. The brain has a mind of its own and keeps track of the exchange of social credits with an Internal Ledger. Caregivers invest more than they can possibly get back from their spouse, so their internal ledger is perpetually out of balance. They feel "owed," their interpersonal and intimacy needs are not met, and this leads to burnout and poor physical and mental health. This instruction manual can solve these problems. We hope to prevent caregiver burnout far and wide. Dave
Interests:
We believe in the scientific method, the importance of free and open intellectual inquiry, and the dignity of man. We believe everyone should be encouraged to live up to their potential. We have an abiding interest in helping spousal caregivers find fulfillment in life. The complete story is told in our book. We love to travel and enjoy lively discussions of current events, history, psychology, and Rhonda's coursework as she studies for her Master's Degree in human servicesMusic:
I love all classical music, especially Russian composers like Prokofiev, Shostakovich. Rhonda loves country music. The odd couple, you say? Not really; we were both well spouses and we make beautiful music together as soul matesMovies:
AmadeusBooks:
The one we just published, but we read popular authors such as Parker Spencer series, James Lee Burke, and so forth. Who has time to read when you are promoting your own book?Television:
CSI, NCIS, Sunday Morning, The Mentalist, Numbers, etc
