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Name: Enga
Birthday: August 28
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RICHMOND, Virginia
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RICHMOND, Virginia
United States
My Mother has terminal cancer at 79 y.o.My Mother has terminal cancer at 79 y.o.
My sister and I just learned of my Mom's cancer. I thank GOD that she was under my care when we found out. She use to live alone in Maryland, before I moved her here in September 07. We only learned about it in June and it is in advance stages. But I give all glory to GOD that he will bring us thru. I hadn't a clue about how to go about taking time from work, but GOD has put other caregiver survivors in place to help me thru this. Dealing with the Medicaid aspect of Hospice and trying to get financial help for a CNA. I have a great support system in place with my co-worker's,ministry and friends. Now I am here for all that you are willing to share with me. Thanks Enga
knitterdi says:
Both of my parents died within the past year. Having a 24/7 caregiver is wonderful (and so say the people in my Friends Meeting) because it frees you to do the things that only a child can do. For me it was listening to life stories that I'd never heard before. My brother Did so much, so many special things. My sister was able to see to finances; bless her for that.
My father wanted hospice, and my brother arranged it. He died after a short illness. The doctor thought it would be longer. He died holding his Bible. During his illness the hospice chaplain said that he wished he could sit all day with my father and absorb the holy presence. I pray God will be there in this way for you and your mother.
My mother died after a prolonged illness. She wanted all possible medical treatment to extend her life. At the end, my brother was reading scripture to her with his hand on her forehead. When he finished the passage, she quit breathing. Let me get this passage for you if you would like.
Enga, as a very recent "adult orphan" I feel connection with the good that you are doing and have done your mother and your shock and pain at anticipation of loss. The connection becomes prayer
My father wanted hospice, and my brother arranged it. He died after a short illness. The doctor thought it would be longer. He died holding his Bible. During his illness the hospice chaplain said that he wished he could sit all day with my father and absorb the holy presence. I pray God will be there in this way for you and your mother.
My mother died after a prolonged illness. She wanted all possible medical treatment to extend her life. At the end, my brother was reading scripture to her with his hand on her forehead. When he finished the passage, she quit breathing. Let me get this passage for you if you would like.
Enga, as a very recent "adult orphan" I feel connection with the good that you are doing and have done your mother and your shock and pain at anticipation of loss. The connection becomes prayer
Posted: August 20, 2008 2:35PM EDT
Nan1204 says:
Believe me Enga, my prayers are with you and your mother. I know it seems insurmountable now but remember what God gives you is no more than you can handle. She will be with Him and you will survive. Trust in His wisdom and say, "Thy will be done." Nan
Posted: June 29, 2008 8:55PM EDT
pannell79 says:
Thanks you both for your prayers. I thought I could just be so strong, since and that it would be an easy transititon, as long as I hold it together. But, last night I stay overnite to give my son a break. My mother has gotten to the stage were she moans and crys out to GOD all night long. Is she suffering, cause she does not seem to be in pain. I just wanted to do something to help her sleep. Should I get hospice to give her something that will help her? I just wanted to hold her in my arms and rock her to sleep like she did for me as a child. Threw one of my co-workers support to donate me hours of leave and the suggestion that I go home and be with her, so that I won't feel a even greater loss of thinking I did not do enough. Enga
Posted: June 28, 2008 2:02PM EDT
brdmommy says:
Enga,
Hospice is a wonderful way to go for your mom...she will get great care there, and you will get alot of family support too...they have great teams comprised of all the healthcare professionals for each patient.
I'm sorry to hear about your mother's diagnosis.
Please know that I am here for you, if you need someone to talk to on here. I am a hospice volunteer, and so are some others here. I am a great listener, and a great support person..so please just know that you can count on me!
God Bless you and your family in this time of difficulty....I will keep you and your mom in my prayers...brdmommy
Hospice is a wonderful way to go for your mom...she will get great care there, and you will get alot of family support too...they have great teams comprised of all the healthcare professionals for each patient.
I'm sorry to hear about your mother's diagnosis.
Please know that I am here for you, if you need someone to talk to on here. I am a hospice volunteer, and so are some others here. I am a great listener, and a great support person..so please just know that you can count on me!
God Bless you and your family in this time of difficulty....I will keep you and your mom in my prayers...brdmommy
Posted: June 27, 2008 7:47PM EDT
dillieg says:
dear enga, you will meet a lot of people who support you and offer you prayers,god bless!
Posted: June 27, 2008 3:07PM EDT
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