I agree with you 100%

Absolutely!!!

Just yesterday when we were out, someone made a derogatory remark about someone else being too slow behind the wheel, in the parking lot!

Russ said, Someone ought to ram it up his ****! I can't deal with people like that!

I told him, it makes no sense getting that upset, over someone else's irritations. Instead of being mad at him,let it go, and be grateful, it's not you in that frame of mind.

If you can't learn to protect yourself from other peoples negativity's, it;s like a bucket of ice water constantly being thrown at you. It will attack you physically, as well as mentally.

My personal bucket of ice, is children and animals being abused.

Try as I might, I cannot shake the hold of anger it has on me, when I hear of these things.

They are going to come no matter what.  We have to catch our thoughts as they occur, step back in that very split second and not react.  We have to take out our toolbox in that very split second: patience, commitment, discipline, concentration, meditation, generosity.

The other day I had a conversation with a Tibetan Buddhist.  He told me he lived with a monk for 6 years.  He said, he is used to people using their third finger in traffic.  He knows this is considered demeaning and derogatory here.  He said, recently, this happened to him in traffic.  He felt his anger rise up immediately.

He backed off in a split second.  The rest of the way home, he meditated on the two fingers we use to give the peace sign.  Then he meditated on the meaning of one finger.  He would look at that one finger while driving.  He told me it is just a finger.  To pay attention to a finger that you see waving in the air when you are driving is illogical. He said, feel sorry, feel true compassion for the person waving that third finger for they are suffering.  They are tense, anxious, and angry.  He said, that person is missing important time in his/her life existing in anger, etc.

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He said people write checks out to charity.  He said, this is not true generosity.  He said, true genorosity is forgiveness of self and other.  He said instead of writing a check to charity, write a check in your mind to someone that is making you upset.  Let it go.  For they are human, like you they are suffering here on earth.

Our imposition on each others reality in a negative way is really the root of most of our problems, physically, mentally, and consciously.

How does one keep the negative impositions out??? It's like a magnetic force, especially with the people you are closest to.