Hi Linda,

     I'm so sorry to hear that you are facing another divorce.    This has to be a very difficult time for you.  Do you have friends/family that you can confide in about this?  Have you consulted an attorney?  How are you doing emotionally?    This is a time to take good care of YOU!  So, find out what it is you need and make sure that you get it.

     And, please keep updated on what is going on in your situation.

     I would be especially eager to read posts from others who may have experienced more than one divorce in their lives; maybe they could offer some advice, too?

      Always remember, the way to be happy is to take those lemons and to figure out a way to make a tasty lemonade!

        SallyJo

Hi, I am Linda, age 58, in Rockwell, NC.  I am not divorced yet but it will be coming.  This will be my 4th divorce.  I am not proud of that.  I went into each marriage with the highest of hopes & dreams for the future.  Once again I am let down.  He will not contribute towards the marriage financially & I am left to provide everything.  I want to get rid of him but haven't been able to.  Everything I have I had before I let him move in & married him.  I've asked him to move out but he won't.  I am mad all the time over this situation.

Hi new members - glad to have you aboard - we are all here to help each other and at times you will feel that you need us also.  I am slowly finding out that life does go on but did not realize until this divorce happened that I was a very impatient person in certain areas.  I guess that I liked to have life run smoothly but have and am learning that is not always the case.  Each day is a new challenge and I am beginning to handle those better.  The hurt, depression, uncertainty still surfaces and am sure that it will for some time - I keep reminding myself to just have patience.  Be sure to post your concerns and feelings - so many here to help you.  Again welcome.

Ruth

Hi Sue...  nice to meet another survivor.  I'm so-o-o sorry about the loss of your dog.  I lost my little pooch to old age at Thanksgiving 2005.  I miss the comfort she gave me.  I'd like to get another but I'm going thru too much right now and I need to be free to leave my home should the need arise to avoid seeing my spouse from time to time.  I'm petitioning to court for exclusive possession of the home but that takes time and there are no guarantees I will get it.  I hope this will all be behind me by the end of the year.   My spouse is such a mean rat he will probably go the distance to try to get every nickle out of me that we might go to trial in the end.  We're not financially well off.  I'm getting unemployment benefits and he's just unemployed, however, he will be getting social security beginning in September at age 62.  I'm paying ALL the bills but I'm hoping I can recoup some of it in the settlement.  I can't seem to find much info on when a man had a child with another woman during the marriage.  I'd like to be credited for all the child support he's paid (the kid is now 16 yrs) over the years.  If you know anything please let me know.

Charlene

Hi:  I too am a newer member of this group.  I have been divorced about 1 1/2 years after a 32 year marriage.  I had been doing really well with all of this--and for the most part still am--but my dog was hit and killed yesterday. I got her the day my divorce was final and she was a HUGE part of my healing.  I am in that re-adjusting place again.  Life's all about change!!

Sue

Hi David...  nice to meet ya.  I'm in the early stages of my divorce after 28 years of marriage.  I can't say I didn't see mine coming years ago but now it's here.  I couldn't take his mental abuse and I believe he was getting to a point that he would become physically abusive.  Right now I would like to get him out of the house.  He's gone weeks at a time without a word but he still returns to torture me.  I want to be free of him desparately.  I've pretty much moved on with my life except for this detail of making things legal.  I live in a Chicago suburb and I want to keep the house.  If you have any advice for me since you've just gone thru this I want to hear it.

Charlene

hi  ...am a new member of this community and happy to be here.  I have been divorced a little less than a year after 30yrs of marriage.  It hit me kind of hard at first, but I feel I am coming through it pretty well.  One of the hard parts was losing some married friends, but I have joined the new local YMCA and have done some cardio and taken a dance class...that has been fun and met a few people in my same situation.  I don't know where my life is headed, but I am slowly getting more comfortable as a single, and will see where things go and wonder what's around the next corner.

David