This post may have seemed a bit unkind or uncharitable, but think of all the males who have rejected me in my lifetime, because of my physical appearance or for what God gave me.

We just have to accept life as it is.

Happy holiday season all ~~~~~

Howdy Senorita Smarty, I reckon it must be a whole lot different out there for you gals.I've always seemed to meet ladies in places like the super market,coffee house,horse shows,even at auditions and Walmart.The next time your at the market and a nice cowboy asks you to read the date on his pint of Ben & Jerry's cause he forgot his spectacles read it for him as he might be me !!! Please stay well & happy. Adios Smarty,Durango

Maybe we should turn this conversation to a more positive note.

Where can women meet men besides the internet dating sites which are not always easy to cope with???

I have sometimes been able to converse with men at the local library or at book talks and club meetings (such as photography clubs or old railroad historical societies).

Any ideas out there on where to meet????? 

  (Woman seam to want men that they can control , go shopping with and ones that take them out to eat and on trips at the mans expense)    now you are being as biased as she is....you are breaking your own standards of previous posts...no such thing as one size fits...I don't want a man to go shopping with and I definately don't want a sissy man who would allow me to control him ...out to eat?   sure fun to have company of a man but dutch treat can be just as enjoyable ....don't know many hairy, balding women with mustaches, but know lots of women who like to camp  fish and even hunt...guess I'm just one out of ten that does....about only thing I agree with you on is I want a guy who ia active  healthy and of course alive.....I've said it over and over again neither gender is exclusive in any area ( except maybe body parts  LOL) in case you dont know it I just gave you hell

[  Plus the fact that older men on their profile usually want someone with the shape of a model and willing to go camping, hunting and fishing with them.  9 times out of 10, women 50+ don't want to do those things. ]

           Many men are looking for a ladies who have healthy shapes and likes to do athletic ,outdoor activities  .I  know that would get sure  my interest.! Woman seam to want men that they can control , go shopping with and ones that take them out to eat and on trips at the mans expense .

                         Both genders have wants and needs and also have different interest that attract them to the opposite sex           Wouldn`t a woman want a man who is healthy and alive and active over one that has no energy or spunk in life ? By the way  men age and some get bald,and hairy ,even mustaches ,just like some woman do  thats just life and years ,We can only be who we are  and make the best of it .Ok ladies give me hell !

[  They are balding, hairy, and just plain nasty-looking  ]

Smartysgal,

Well, as usual, there is certainly more to the story, yes? A lifetime of being single can mean there have been some good relationships along the journey. It was for me for 20 years. Who is to say this may have not brought more meaning to our lives.  For those of us who have married, we consequently wanted more from life and so divorced.  I don't like to hear people say that my present is the result of the choices I have made. That might be more true if I lived in a vacuum... well in isolation. If my decisions were all that caused results, then that might be more true. But in relationships so much is yet to be discovered. We generally don't find out until after the marriage. One or two generations ago the couple would've just buckled down, unhappy or even miserable for decades. Some of the ladies I've met are not even conscious of what is going on with them and frankly neither did I. The majority of men and women are just not qualified to pick their mate, LOL! sounds funny but the average person has not examined their past or created a shopping list for the future. It is largely left to fate. Then the big compromise hits... we settle for less, try to make do and often throw in the towel. The dating sites are very obviously working. Now if we broadcast a simple "name, face and location" to everyone, we likely get one of two results. A large number of people to sift through. This is similar to the 'fate method'. Secondly so little info was given that few respond. If you want excellent results, start by doing some homework. Write (as in written) on paper or computer a history of your relationships... how it began, good and bad experiences, the ending and be honest with yourself about your own behaviour. When it is done go over this with a non-relative, non-friend that you respect or trust. Priests often do this for anyone. This is cleaning out the house to make a place for your new love. Next make a list of inner qualities you need. This could be 5 things you really need in a new mate/spouse. Could be up to 10 qualities. I suggest that men and women alike relax about the 'package'. Outer appearance should take care of itself. When you check the stats for the datings sites, eHarmony is way out front in marriages. Just a fact.

It is not too late for us. I take inspiration from my grandmother. When she was 60 she eloped! Didn't want to hear anyone saying she was too old. Her marriage lasted 23 years until death they did part. I have several friends who like POF too.

I wish you love and contentment,

Lee

I agree with you.  Plus the fact that older men on their profile usually want someone with the shape of a model and willing to go camping, hunting and fishing with them.  9 times out of 10, women 50+ don't want to do those things.  What really cracks me up is that some of these older men pose nude from the shoulders up, and they are NOT Jack Lalannes, if you know what I mean.  They are balding, hairy, and just plain nasty-looking.  It is just not an attractive picture to look at if you are trying to find a gentleman to talk to!  I got on the POF dating site and it seems there are several men there who have been on other dating sites that I have paid money to subscribe.  No more paying out the wazoo for me!

I understand how you feel. My thoughts are that men 50 years of age and older  are looking for someone half there age, so thats leaves the real woman out.  Maybe one day men will  realize that they should be with women there age and leave the young girls for the young men that way they will have someone to grow old with and not have some one to look at them grow old. How can someone be with a person 1\2 there age and feel good about growing old with that person do they realizes that soon they will not be able to keep up with  the younger person and will be left home along all by themselves.