It has been a while since I actually journalled (new word).  It’s not that I’ve been too busy to make an entry, it’s just that I really don’t like wasting my time on the computer.  I’d much rather be doing something else like cleaning out a closet or getting ready for the next flea market sale.  I chose to tiltle this entry "Too Busy to Bother" because a lot of us are.

Am I crazy for thinking that other Grannies are in need of a support group like I do?  Whenever I mention the Grannie Connection to anyone, they think that it’s a fantastic idea!  If it is so fantastic, why aren’t there more Grannies coming to our local support group?

Grannies are too busy to bother.  Grannies do everything for eveyone else and not much for themselves.  (My observation.)  What makes a person drop whatever they are doing in order to accommodate someone else?  I believe that many of us love to be needed, especially by our darling little angels.  I don’t think that we NEED to be needed.  It’s just nice to be needed.  What happens when we are over-needed?  We often feel like we are taken advantage of.  Oh, we love our babies, but sometimes we are dying to function as an adult woman who has a life.

I feel that there are a lot of Grannies out there who have lost their identity as a woman.  I joined Grannie Connection because I wanted to make sure that I took the time to connect with my peers on a regular basis.  My friend (sistah270) and I find it so hard to get together because our lives are full of other people who need us.  Personally, sometimes, I feel like I have been on this merry-go-round and can’t get off.  I have often felt out of control of my own life because of the needs and demands put upon me by others.

The reason why our local Grannie Connection chapter is not successful is because we are too busy to bother.  Something always comes up, be it watching our grandbabies, work, appointments, errands - the list is an ongoing one. We become physically and emotionally worn.  We are too tired to do one other thing - even if it is for ourselves!  So.........maybe a weekly get together is too much for us to commit to right now.  We shouldn’t forget about the need we have for such a support group.  We are considering a monthly meeting time - and making a day of it.  We really aren’t that busy!

We stopped meeting at the coffee house.  We didn’t feel welcome there, even though the owner was cordial enough when we spoke on the phone to set up the time.  We are still in need of a Ferguson resident so we can gain access to the library.  If you know a Grannie who lives in Ferguson, leave us a message.