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Today was a bad day for me. For the last week and a half I have been down takeing care of my dad. Two days ago looking through my mothers things I found some letters that bothered me. So I asked my sister if she knew anything about it and she unloaded some bad secrets about my dad.

It turns out that I should have had either a half brother or sister. But my dad paid to have an abortion. Then I found that he has molested over a dozen young girls in his life time. and has raped my one neice several times. 

Then I found out that he had had several relaytion ships with other women. And all this time he was saying he loved my mother.

I confronted him about these things and he said no he never did any of them. And then he said I don't remember a lot of things.

I told him that I was able to talk to several of the girls that he had molested and was told by them things that he did and it was almost the same in all cases except for where it was done.

He loooked at me and said he couldn't have done it they where young girls and thats wrong.

Then he said he had aranged for someone to stay and take care of him. It turned out that he had molisted her older sister. I told him that if she stayed to take care of him I was going to tell her all the things he had done. And if she still wanted to stay after that then we wouldn't be responsable.

He has had 4 strokes sense January. The doctors all have told him not to drive but he would pull out a spare set of keys if he wanted to go somewhere. I finally got all of his spair keys and gave them to my sister who lives in the same town.

Dad knew he didn't want me to talk to the girl that was going to take care of him so he picked a fight with me. He wanted to go to town and get a hamberger. He knew that I had to stay there because I was waiting for someone to install a dish for the TV. I told him that I will take him after the guy comes and that I would fix him something to hold him over. He said give me the car keys and I go my self.

I told him you know I can't do that because if he got in an accident I could be held responsable for it and loose everything I have. He didn't care and told me that it was time for me to go home. Dad always said he was better than everyone at anything. I told him that he wasn't and that he better get use to it. Hes 86 years old.

Then he started yelling at me and then he started swaring at me. After all those years he used me and told me that he always had to redo everything I had done. I let him have it with both barrels and told him the reason people came to visit was to see mom. we learned a while ago that he would promis things and when you traveled between 600-800 miles and then he says I didn't say that I never let him do it again. and if I went I always did the work and never asked for a penny even though he had money. When any of us kids fell on a hard time he would never help. I told him the only thing he ever cared about was himself and that if he ever gave someone anything he would always tell you I need help with this or that and if you told him that you couldn't help that day but would set things up to help him in a couple of days he would always bring up the things he gave you.

He tried to hit me with several guilt trips and that wasn't going to work because I was tired of all his lies and broken promises.

He finally told me that go ahead and take the keys he had some spairs. But when he couldn't find them he would come back and and demand his keys again and I would tell him NO.

One time he tried to par my way from going into the house to get the rest ome my things but I just grabbed his upper arms and moved him to the side very gentel and walked in.

As I was getting the last of my things he said get out of here and never come back. So I went to my sisters and gave her the keys. she also has the other two sets of keys as well. When I told her all this she called my dad and really chewed him out but all he wanted was his keys. My sister told him that she had a set of his keys. He told her that at least he could get a coppy made from the one set. My sister said you can drive around the farm but you can't drive on the road. He promised he wouldn't so she went out and gave him the one set and as soon as she left he took off into town. so my sister said you promised you wouldn't go into town so give me the keys. He said No I won't let anyone have these keys.

My sister went straight to DMV and told them of the problem and had his license voided then she went back to tell him that he no longer had a valid license and if he got caught they would impound his car. and that they would not release it to him. He said I'm cutting you all out of my will you will get nothing and told her to leave and never come back.

My sister has his power of aterney for everything and she called me up and said I can't deal with him and so we decided that maybe a nurseing home is where he belongs. I agreed.

That was 3 days ago and he has called me everyday trying to tell me he is sorry and for me to come back. My wife has told him that I wasn't there that he would have to call back.

I have gotten 28 phone calls from him. But right now I just don't want to talk to him because I know what he's going to say and I don't want to hear it. My sister was told by his doctor that when people start getting this bad its time to put him in a home. 

We all tried to set it up so dad would die at home but it won't happen now. We have all talke to people for advice and all have given us the same answer.