• Health
• Money
• Leisure
• Make a Difference
• Family
• Online Community
• Membership

A man in love

When I was young there where words that I though where girlish. Like love, pretty, how sweet, and other words I just can’t count them all. When a girl started saying those words I wanted to turn and run or lose my lunch.

I didn’t have a relationship with my dad that I could talk to him about things. I was there to learn what he wanted to teach which was called slave labor because dad would always be working on a house. He would find a cheep one and then rebuild it. So my brother and I had to work on these houses with my dad and of course it was all the jobs that my dad didn’t want to do. When I didn’t want to learn something my dad would lay a guilt trip on me. So many times I would miss things like going out to the moves with cousins so that I could learn. My dad never got a high school diploma but he did go to a barber collage but they only taught how to cut hair. But that was before I was born.

Dad wanted his kids to get an education and go from there. He was in the CB’s during WW II. And when he got back he got married to my mom.

When I started dating I still had problems with those words and so I would try and change the topic. And being a guy I didn’t know how to talk so I would tell about a movie and if my date saw the move then we would talk about parts of the movie.

Then I got to the part when I found out what dating was really for according to the other guy. But I soon found that most girls didn’t think that way so now I was confused and my dad was no help. He married his first girl friend so he had no experience. Dad would tell me things that he didn’t want me to do on dates.

Is just so happened that I have a cousin that about a week and a half younger than me and I learned a lot of things from him. But there were still some holes that couldn’t be learned and that I would have to go by hit and guess.

So I went out with some girls to learn what I was missing. Boy they tough me several things but I was to scared to try them out.

When dad heard about the girls I had dated he was about ready to lock me up or chain to the tree. But mom just told me that I couldn’t use the car for 2 weeks.

I was a drummer in a band and played for a lot of the dances in the area. So I wouldn’t have a date those nights but I did get a few phone numbers at every dance.

I think the main reason that I played for the dances was so I didn’t have to work with me dad. I had gotten engaged and that lasted about for months and then I asked her if my ring would be to heave to ware. And then she said I can’t marry you we are to different types of people. I didn’t know what that really meant so I just left and never saw her again. I was going into the army and she said she could never marry a guy in uniform. A few years later in Germany I ran into her and she was married to a guy in uniform. But I had gotten married four months after we broke it off.

I met my wife at my sisters and her brothers wedding. I was going into the army in a week and I asked her if I could write to her and she said ok.

I had a Christmas brake from basic training and came back to see her. And she wasn’t living at home just a couple of miles away and her and her room mate didn’t have any transportation and so I said would you like to use my car while I finish out basic training she said she yes. So I had her name put on my insurance.

A week later I got a call from her someone had broken into my car and stole my 8 track tape player. She was so worried that I would scream and holler at her. But all I said was that’s ok I was planning to get rid of it anyway. Then she said do you remember last week how I felt about you. I said yes and you told me that I was a nice guy and didn’t mind going out with me.

She then said I kind of feel deeply about you. I wasn’t sure what to say so we talked until my change was gone which was only about a minute.

That night I though about it over and over at what she had said and the next day it finally hit me so that night I had gotten some change and I called her up and we talked for a minute and then the operator said I had to put more money in to keep talking and I didn’t have any more so I asked her if we could make it a collect call my future wife said yes. So now I was calling her collect.

I said you know last night when you said you felt deeply about me it didn’t sink in till today and there is something I want to ask you but I have been burned before.

She said you can ask me anything and I’ll tell you. So I asked her a couple of questions and then I finally said what if I was to ask you to marry me what would you say. She said I would       except. Now I was frustrated and I said except for what do you have a boyfriend is there someone you are waiting for or what.

Then she said I would     except. Now I was going nuts what was she saying, so then I said except for what.

And then she put it all together and said I would accept. Then I said will you marry me. And she said yes. That is another of the English language problems we have.

But so far I haven’t found anyone that has asked for a girls hand in marriage from basic and over the phone and it was collect.

After I was married those girlish words weren’t girlish words any more and I understood them.