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Gender: Female
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Married
Location:
Winter Springs, Florida
United States
Winter Springs, Florida
United States
School:
Germantown High School, Germantown, TN
State Technical Institute at Memphis, Memphis, TN
Germantown High School, Germantown, TN
State Technical Institute at Memphis, Memphis, TN
Hometown(s):
Collierville, TN
Winter Springs, FL
Collierville, TN
Winter Springs, FL
Jay (2).jpgComments (6)
Romneykat says:
Thinking of you. I hope that you have a quiet and loving weekend.
Romneyka
Romneyka
Posted: August 30, 2008 10:03PM EDT
Romneykat says:
I am so sorry for the loss of your son and share great empathy with you. I lost my son 2 years ago July 14. I wrote a blog as part of my healing process should you want to read it the site is below for you to cut and paste.
http://hubpages.com/hub/The-Death-of-a-Child----War-related-or-not--being-a-Caretaker
I am hoping that perhaps reading my experience will be of some small help to you in your grieving.
Guilt hit me from the start. It was my responsibility as a mother to protect and keep my son safe; now he is gone. How could I have failed so badly? I spoke with 10 parents who lost a child to various causes, and this is something they all experienced, thus, I believe this is a normal response for a parent but it sure is hard to work through.
I chose to celebrate my son's life in a way to counter the guilt. Grateful for the time that I had him with me and remember all the beauty of him. That is just one way in which I coped. Nothing is the same. Also, what works for one does not always work for someone else.
That you are now speaking of the feelings of guilt is a wonderful first step in healing. I congratulate you.
There is not one day that goes by that I don't think of my son and try to recall a wonderful moment in our time together. I Wear a necklace in his honor. It is a heart shaped pendant a mother of pearl center with gold wings enveloping it and a crystal tear drop in the center. On the back is engraved: "Gone but not forgotten, forever in my heart."
I send you my prayers that you will find peace and acceptance.
Romneykat
http://hubpages.com/hub/The-Death-of-a-Child----War-related-or-not--being-a-Caretaker
I am hoping that perhaps reading my experience will be of some small help to you in your grieving.
Guilt hit me from the start. It was my responsibility as a mother to protect and keep my son safe; now he is gone. How could I have failed so badly? I spoke with 10 parents who lost a child to various causes, and this is something they all experienced, thus, I believe this is a normal response for a parent but it sure is hard to work through.
I chose to celebrate my son's life in a way to counter the guilt. Grateful for the time that I had him with me and remember all the beauty of him. That is just one way in which I coped. Nothing is the same. Also, what works for one does not always work for someone else.
That you are now speaking of the feelings of guilt is a wonderful first step in healing. I congratulate you.
There is not one day that goes by that I don't think of my son and try to recall a wonderful moment in our time together. I Wear a necklace in his honor. It is a heart shaped pendant a mother of pearl center with gold wings enveloping it and a crystal tear drop in the center. On the back is engraved: "Gone but not forgotten, forever in my heart."
I send you my prayers that you will find peace and acceptance.
Romneykat
Posted: August 1, 2008 2:27PM EDT
Patty says:
Going okay I guess. Yesterday was Joe's birthday and went to the casinos to celebrate, spent money we shouldn't have. But I guess you just never know when it will be you last birthday. Learned that about life, you are never promised tomorrow. Went today and signed my mother's mobile home over to the mobile home park, got very little for it. It's not the money that bothers me it's letting go of her last home and remember Chad lived there for a couple of years with his granny. Why does life have to be so hard?!?!?!?
Love
Patty
Love
Patty
Posted: March 11, 2008 1:09PM EDT
Patty says:
Marilyn,
Is this you? Don't know anything about this new board.
Love Patty
Is this you? Don't know anything about this new board.
Love Patty
Posted: March 11, 2008 11:41AM EDT
circa1952 says:
Yep, it's me. I am still trying to figure this website out. How have things been going with you?
Peace,
Marilyn
Peace,
Marilyn
Posted: March 11, 2008 11:56AM EDT
