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Name: Robert
Location:
WELLESLEY, Massachusetts
United States
School:
Rutgers College
University of Pittsburgh
Work:
U.S. Army - Field Artillery
Johnson & Johnson
Sears, Roebuck and Co.
L.L. Bean
Digital Equipment
New England Life
Wm. M. Mercer Consulting
Coopers & Lybrand Consulting
RetirementJobs.com
Hometown(s):
Wilkes Barre, PA
Plainfield, NJ
Oak Park, IL
Brunswick, ME
Bedford, NH
Boston, MA
Wellesley, MA
Quote:
"Well, I guess every form of refuge has its price". (The Eagles - "Lyin' Eyes" 1975)

How Are You Coping?

 


 

Let’s not sugar coat things.  This is the worst economic downturn in the past three generations.  Raging unemployment, falling house prices, financial turmoil, failure of major employers, absolutely incomprehensible Federal and State budget deficits, skyrocketing health care costs, home foreclosures and 40% to 50% declines in personal investment values.   People with traditional defined benefit pensions and retiree health benefits are the truly blessed – and even they’re potentially at risk as employers alter retiree benefits after a worker has retired.

 

 

Worse yet, this recession is global.  Our economy is intertwined in countless ways with the entire world economy, and conditions are worse in many countries.  Even optimistic economists and academics are predicting the global economy will becoming worse and be longer in recovering than any time inthe past.  It just could be that the best days for our economy and our families arebehind us – at least for quite a long time.

 

 

 The people writing to me are expressing the full range of emotions from “somewhat concerned” to “utter despair”.  People anticipating retirement now face the necessity of continuing to work.  Recent retirees are actively looking to returning to work, and older retirees unable to work are simply scared to death of outliving their assets and income.

 

 

 The truth is that many of us are not at all prepared for the economic conditions roaring headlong at us.  Large personal debt, meager savings and declining work opportunities are“the perfect storm”.  Even hardworking and qualified job seekers can’t find suitable work. The reality is that sometimes the only advice I can offer older jobseekers is go for any job you can find, reduce your living costs, takecare of your health and reach out to family and friends for support.  It’s been very discouraging for me that I can’t be of more help, or can I?

 

 

 We all have a choice to make about how we’ll cope, and I’ve made mine. 

 

 

 Before I tell you, let me share how I arrived at the answer.  I didn’t believe the stories my Dad told me about “picking coal” that had fallen from the railcars on their way out of Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania to warm the one-room tarpaper shack he shared with his folks and eleven brothers and sisters.  I didn’t believe the stories about feeding the youngest kids first with little or nothing left sometimes for his Mom and Dad.  Until the day he died, he would yell at us if we left the front door open long enough for cold air to come in. 

 

 

 I was raised under the cloud of him thundering, “Just thank God you didn’t have to live through the Depression”.  Appreciate what you’ve got, share with anyone in need, look outfor your family, and most importantly, don’t plan on things staying good forever.  Work hard, save money, plan for bad days and never, ever give in to despair.  Now he went from the Depression directly into World War II.  By my count, that’s sixteen years of continuous struggle and challenges.  By comparison, I actually feel relieved at what we have to deal with today.

 

 

 So, now for my choice.  I choose to continue to work as hard as I can for as long as I can.  I choose to share the talents and knowledge I’ve gained from fifty years of work.  I choose to help some of the eleven million unemployed workers find appropriate jobs where they can care for their families and themselves.  I choose to encourage older workers to be proud of their capabilities and maturity.  I choose to be persistent and not tolerate age bias in any form.

 

 

 There will always be people who are unemployed for one reason or another.  Today, there more than 11 million unemployed and countless others underemployed and in financial trouble. 

 

 

 But I also know there about 3,500,000 jobs posted on online job posting boards and perhaps another million or so that are never advertised.  All in all, that’s about two or three candidates for every job.  The jobs will not always go to the best qualified candidate.  More often than not, they will go to the most skillful and persistent job seeker.  They will not go to the downhearted or discouraged, and they certainly won’t go to the people who have given up the search.

 

 

 I’m going to cope through sheer force of will and by remembering that people have survived much more.  I’m going to cope by doing the best possible work I can and by committing to assist others whenever I can.

 

 

 Please take a minute and write to share your thoughts on the challenge confronting us and how you plan to see your way through.  Thanks, Bob Skladany

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

maiste says:

I applaud anyone who can just make it through another day....that is how I cope.... when things seem unbearable....I tell myself, I can make it through the next minute.....and then the next minute....{i learned this when I had breast cancer, which for me, was not nearly as bad an experience as job-hunting in this economy.}

Also, I cope by exercising my very dark sense of humour.....laughing at the sheer ridiculousness of dire situations has gotten me through many a dire situation. You can laugh or you can cry...and sometimes both at once !

all the best to all of you
Posted: March 24, 2009 8:36PM EDT
Denise99 says:

Could someone tell me why Affirmative Action doesn't include age discrimination?
Posted: March 2, 2009 7:48PM EST
suzannefrey says:

I think our days are as bright and cherry as we choose to make them. A paid for peanut butter and jelly sandwich tastes far better than a steak dinner paid for with a charge card. We all have choices to make about this recent downturn in the economy. We can look at it as a way to enrich our lives by getting back to what is really important and being financialy sound and not using the credit card or start paying down debts no matter how hard it might be hard for some. When you lose your job and/or your home you DO truly find out who your friends are. You can also use the time as a stepping stone to something more solid and more meaningful. Let's challenge each other to find one thing to be thankful for each day and one person to offer encouragement to each day and see if that dosen't make a difference. I know that I have a God that is bigger than any depression or recession and I truly believe that HE causes all things to work together for good. Our part is to trust HIM. Our parents and grandparents lived through the depression at a time in our American history when you didn't have to be politically correct in your beliefs. Maybe we should all try to get back to some of those fundemental values also
Posted: March 1, 2009 10:14PM EST

Iam starting by collecting 3 mos of cat/dog food and water, then paper products and canned goods, grains and buying a propane stove,lanterns, camping gear in general. We need to be prepared for the worse-the electrical grid going down, rioting etc.Well, I hope not-what a drag. I was laid off and doing ok for now. I don't have credit card bills. I live frugally. Only God could help us now and I don't believe HE will-America and the world are immoral and greedy. I think its all planned to lead us to the one world gov't. America as we all knew it-land of easy living-is gone. Prepare and be wise. I wish I could store up gold-but, I can't and have none. I trust God to help His own children. I think the WorkKamping idea is great!
Posted: February 22, 2009 7:37PM EST
DKRobus says:

A lot of people are coping by Workamping... working while living in an RV (recreational vehicle). My mom and her husband spent six weeks in Maine last fall working at a canoe/kayak/bicycle rental in Bar Harbor. They got hourly wages and half of their campsite rental paid, plus use of all of the "toys" at their place of work on their days off. In their free time, they toured Acadia National park and ate their fill of lobster and other seafood. Visiting Maine and taking a trip through New England in the fall were on their "bucket list." Workamping paid the way.

After the trip to Maine, they drove to Kansas and worked until Christmas in a distribution warehouse for Amazon.com and Target. The work was hard, but they pocketed hourly wages in the $10-11 range, and that meant they didn't have to tap into their IRA's. This summer, they will workamp at a professional opera camp in the Arkansas Ozarks... food service and maintenance in the daytime - attending opera performances at night!

Workamping is helping my mom and others like her stay afloat in this recession and still manage to afford to travel across America. Bob is right... there ARE jobs if you know where to look, are flexible and open to new opportunities and adventures. And besides, workamping can be fun - and we could all use a little more of that these days!
Posted: February 21, 2009 2:37PM EST

It is pretty discouraging, especially in light of the stimulus bill, but everyone's sort of
in the same boat. Most of the country is involved in the market, so we can just hope it comes back
Posted: February 21, 2009 11:54AM EST
health09 says:

Thanks for your great insight. I am currently unemployed - and I'm coping! I just do things that are fun for me, like karaoke singing and gardening. However, I'm blessed to have a husband who's financially able to support us despite substantial loss in our family income. Many unemployeds aren't as lucky. I said this not to brag, but to let everyone know that I'm still counting my blessings.

You're so right by saying that the most qualified don't always get the job. I'm not as aggressive as others in job seeking. I rely on my friends and online leads. I don't go out everyday pounding the pavements. As a last recourse, I'm thinking of volunteering at a prospective business in order to get hired eventually. We are inarguably in the midst of a bleak future. But this doesn't stop me from hoping that things will get better - very soon!
Posted: February 18, 2009 11:24PM EST
NYStars3 says:

Bob, I applaud your 'choices'. You have the right attitude to survive this and learn from it. I am retired and work part-time. I'm doing OK, and have made the decision not to use my credit cards at all and am finding that works just fine for me. Evidently there are lots of things I really can do without. I do think it's going to get worse before it gets better and that coming out of this is going to take some time - how long that is, I don't know.
Thanks for your journal
Posted: February 16, 2009 12:01AM EST
dillieg says:

WELL WRITTEN,THANKS FOR SHARING.
I AM NOT SURE SOME WILL COPE, I THINK MANY OF US SETTLE BECAUSE WE ARE FORCED TO DO SO.
WE HAVE NO VOICE, NO CHOICE AND AN OPINION THAT NOONE CARES TO HEAR.
ALL I CAN SAY IS GOD HELP US!
Posted: February 12, 2009 8:44PM EST
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