I love this thought! Thank you. As you open yourself, your capacity for living expands. Places where you have felt stuck will begin to loosen and move. A learning attitude brings life-giving movement to your care giving, to your life, and to your relationships.

I Chose a Learning Attitude, or you could say it chose me! I was an only child, adopted so someone said yes to life before me.

You are right, a learning attitude sometimes does over-ride old resentments, opening a lot of different pathways; some to more whole relationships & some to relationships in which you allow to be used by people who say they love you, but actually need you & use you. This type of relationship is very draining.

Yes, when I was younger, I did put my elders on a pedestal. I used to assume that others would also do the best they could, since then I have learned there are a lot of people give up & expect others to assist them. There is a difference in mentoring/assisting someone & becoming their crutch.

Developing your own good personality traits helps you develop self confidence, strengthens your style of relating to others. Adoration for your elders & relying on the beliefs they have instilled in you can restrict you from building confidence in yourself & the desire to develop your own attitude about life & relationships.

It is very hard for anyone to have to reverse the child/parent relationship, with your parents. If you realize it is just as hard for your elder to allow you to take the lead, as it was for you to have confidence to follow them when you were a teenager even though you thought you were all grown up, you can develop a middle ground.

You can be passive person & still take action. You can be highly verbal, & be a good listener. You can be impetuous & restrain your temperament with out having to change your personally. Just relax, treat others the way you would like to be treated. Remember it is a lot easier to love others if you love yourself.
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