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DEATH - A RELEASE FROM THE PAIN IN LIVING

Last night my mother-in-law passed away. We had been warned that the time was near. I feel sad for our loss. Especially my husband who was close to her. But there is also a feeling of relief. She was blind from macular, deaf in one ear and her body had closed in around her like a cage. She could not move even her hands were locked. She had spent the last year saying she wanted to die and we understood only too well. She was in a lot of pain.

She was once a very vibrant woman. She and her husband raised 2 sons & sent them out into the world to make their fortune. Meanwhile she and her husband traveled to Europe and many other places. He passed away about 15 yrs ago and she remarked in one of our conversations that she was very angry with him for leaving her. My remark was that I didn’t think he was too happy about it either.

In the past 5 years I have watched her fight to hang on to her independence only to lose it and end up a prisoner of her own body. I will miss her and I will remember her as she was. A darm good fighter and a worthy foe.

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jen43 says:

Yes, Sometimes death is a welcome release, we lost my mother to alzhiemers long before she actually died, although we loved her dearly, we knew that her death was releasing her from the empty painful void she was living in, Bless you, and thanks for sharing....Jen

Posted: June 11, 2008 8:50PM EDT

IBT says:

Thank You. I am sorry for your loss. But remember you carry your mother with you where ever you go. In your heart and memories.

Posted: June 11, 2008 7:05PM EDT

kmmorrison says:

I am so sorry for your loss. Just remember your Mother-in-law is in a better place. She is not in pain any more. I lost my Mom in March to ALS. She was diagnosed in Nov. of last year. She only made it 4 months. All this time she to was not able to move. It took her fast. It gets easier. take it one day at a time. KM

Posted: June 11, 2008 6:16PM EDT

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