Is it not indeed? Young Love is all about carrying on the Species!  Making lots of Babies!  Lust is in control and rational thought is not considered! Now! When this part of Life is past, we have time for "Old Love"! Old Love has to do with the Wants and Needs of the two individuals that make up a Couple! Babies are now Children, who have Grandchildren. Now the focus is on Careing, Hugging, Petting, Touching, and really Loving the person you are with. Even if the rest of the World does not approve , So F-ing What! This is Personal!! It has nothing to do with any one else but the "Two Of You!" These are your "Golden Years!" Enjoy!  Art

Every Relationship, be it Friendship or Romance, requires many things to make it work. Sited often is Trust! That is almost a must. Compatability is another. If you want to spend a lot of time with someone, you would do well to have common interests. For Romance , Intamacy is one more to add to the list. But, often left out and not on the List is Understanding. If you make a comment and intend it to mean a certain thing, it is nice if the other person knows what you mean. If they are constantly Mis-Reading you, that could be a serious problem. How many of you can say almost anything to a Friend or Mate and not have to worry about it being taken out of context? " I could never say that to my Wife!" I have heard that said many times. Why can't you kid with them? Are they that thin skinned that they can not take a joke with out thinking it an insult? Do they have a reason to think that way? Was the Trust compromised by you? If not, then Why? If some one "Knows" that you would never intentionally hurt them in any Way, Shape, or Form, they have no reason to think of your ribbing as any thing more than Teasing. I know first hand the how the Lack of Understanding can derail a Relationship. Probably you do too. Might do well to think of this in the search for New Relationships. I just got real Lucky and found someone. You might just get Lucky too.  Art

Familliar term, hidden meaning. Sounds so simple in concept,but, so dificult to do in Real Life. The Meaning of this term? Compromise? Yes! Sharing? That too! But what it really means is,"Giving In!" "Giving Up Something!" "Going Along With Someone Elses Idea!" "Putting The Greater Good Ahead Of Your Own!"  What stands in the way of doing all of this? Pride! Envy! Distrust! Competition! Family! Friends! Religon! Politics! Ect.! Ect.! and Ect,!  On a Global Scale, being able to Meet In The Middle would save Millions of Lives! On a Personel Level. it would save many Relationships! Next time you think to Dig Your Heels In, will you be a Winner for doing so? Or, Shoot Your Self In The Foot? Your Choice!  Art

How do they differ? A Fool puts his Body in Gear before engaging his Brain. A Wise Man does just the opposite. To be Smart, you must be a Little Of Both. Too Foolish, and you are doomed to fail over and over again. Too Wise and you will spend so much time Thinking Things Through, that the opertunity will Pass You By! Apply that Reasoning to " Fools Rush In Where Wise Men Fear To Tread! " Or, " Wise Men Never Fall In Love!" Wise Men spend too much time Thinking. A Smart Man knows when it is time to Stop Thinking and Do Something about it. That is being Truley Wise.   Art

I have a Very Special Lady that I just said that to. It is true. I have this "Thing" about passing on what Life has taught me. One of those ways is in my Journals. I try to speak of things that should be spoken of. I try to help people know that they are not alone. Mucn of their pain, I and others also feel. I try to be Human! Is that not what we are? I am no more perfect than you are. We all are Works In Progress! We all look for Love! We all look to see if we measure up! We all want to Belong! We all look for that One Special Person that will prove to us that Life Really is Worth Living! I may have just gotten Lucky! Art

Behind every Man, there is a Woman!  Ever thought about that? I find it to be quite true. These Journals I feel compelled to do are many times the product of my interaction with a Woman. They make me step back and take another look at Life. They make me see things I never would have noticed with out them coming into my Life. Some bring Pain along with Joy. But, is that not part of Life? With out Pain, how are we to see the true Value of Joy?  I am sure that Women see this from the other side in much the same way. The Ultimate Joy is, of course, Love! That requires equal input from both Men and Woman to properly work. To take more than you are due, is to upset the Balance that Love requires. To Give ,with out expecting a return, is the proper way to view Love. Easy to say, hard to do! It requires total Trust! The goal is to find someone that is worthy of this kind of Trust. We may spend a Life Time in search of such a person. It is a search worth takeing. Risk and Loss are part of Life. Love is the Prize that we all seek!  And, Yes! This Journal was indeed "Inspired By A Woman!"   Art

It has me wondering about what to do about it!?! How much of my day/night time do I sit here? I almost never turn the TV on. I get my News here! Friends and Socializing? Get that here too. To be frank, I would not do much of this in the Real World! Money and Distance will not allow. I gave up the Cell Phone as too expensive and too demanding of my attention. Is this Computer any less demanding?  When I see a Flag on the Task Bar say I have a message, do I not jump to the keyboard and mouse to see who it is? Is this a harmless infactuation,or, some thing more sinister? Could I have a Serious Addiction!  That is Scary!! How do I find out. Do I sit in front of the Monitor and see how long I can last when that Flag is telling me "You Have Mail!" ? Is 2 min. long enough before I cave in? Do I have to go " 5 Minutes!!??!!  What if I can't? Do I have to sign into a Treatment Center for E-Mail Addicts? What will people say?  Not sure I can take the Shame it would bring! Can I hide this from Friends? Wait just a minute! Those Friends! They are all On-Line with me! If I am addicted, well, so are they! So! What am I worried about? I am just one more Computer Junkie in a World of Junkies! Thank God! For a while there I thought I had a problem! Sorry! Got to go!  "I Got Mail!"  Art

Sounds like a Silly Question, but, I have just found out that it is not!  How do you get a group of people together when their Economic Level is vastly different?  I mean, I have Siblings who spend more at Starbucks than I spend on my entire Food Budget! Online I find the same problem! Social Net Working is fine so long as we do not have to meet in the Real World! Then, Money Speaks! Your Latte' will buy me Breakfast! The Gap between the Haves and Have Nots is ever widening. We are talking Lamborginies to Rent a Wrecks! I am on the Bottom of the tier. I go out to breakfast one time per month! That cost me a $10.00 dollar bill. That may not buy your Latte'!  Will Class Society take over here as it does in Europe? Time will tell.  Art

I posed this question on another site and got a variety of returns. It has meaning for all of us. Much of our time is spent trying to blend into the Society to which we are born. We were not consulted on this. We just got put here. So we learn how to "Act" properly. To "Act" as our parents would want. To "Act" as out Teacher want. To "Act" as our Friends want. All our Life becomes a great Performance as we "Act" out our part in it. With all this effort to properly "Act", what happens to the "Real" us? Are we still there? Or, do we get lost in the drive to conform to what Society, Family, Friends, and every other Tom, Sam, and, Harry that comes along? Does there, or, will there ever be a time when we can put all this "Acting" aside and "Just Be Us?" So, I ask? Are You Who I Think You Are? Or, Are You What You Act Like To Me?  Only you can answer this. Unless, that is, that you have "Acted" your Role for so long that even you do not know what is Real. and what is "All Just A Great Performance!"?   Art

They were the people you were trying to catch up to! Well, guess what!?! They were just trying to stay ahead of you! They just lost Big Time! And guess what? Your next!!!  That 14 room house you own? Fore Closeure! You only needed 5 rooms, but, you had to catch the Joneses! The Boat you never used! The Time Share you never had Time for! We could go on and on here. So here you are with no one to catch up to. You have now become, "The New Jonses!". How do you feel now that there is no where to go but "DOWN!"  Can you come back to reallity before it is too late? It is all up to you! Your Family should be what is important above all else. Change now or risk loosing them  to debt!  Art